The Generation Gap

Sayyid Muhammad Taqi Hakim

Published: 2013

Tag(s): islam

Chapter   1

Introduction

The younger generations possess pure hearts and spirits which are full of sensations, emotions and enthusiasms. They are passing through the most sensitive and critical period of their lives and require guidances, supports and sympathies. A young person is like a nascent sapling requiring the loving protection of sincere, experienced and wise gardner, against the diseases and accidents. The famous persian poet Sheikh Sa'di said:

A young man is like an arrow; rigid, hard and straight.

But it requires a flexible and bending bow (which is like a wise oldman) for the arrow to bit the target.

The cultural maturity of a society, especially the Isalmic one, is proportional to the importance to attaches towards the guidance, training, and continuous endeavours towards its younger generations. Notwithstanding, with the opinion of some people, in general training is a very difficult task, especially the training of younger generations, which is complicated and contains various delicate points. The famous German philosopher Kant has defined the training of younger generation and the government of a country as the most difficult tasks in the world.

Unfortunately, in todays industrial societies parents, because of being surrounded by numerous mental involvements do not have the opportunity to think or ponder about the aim and days pass by speedily. Very often the days pass into nights; new day begin; and weeks and months pass by without parents finding suitable occasion to indulge into serious communications with their off springs. Although, the problem of raising resonsible, nature, conscientious, and righteous children is a serious matter that all parents are worried about; but how to deal with the younger generations and to establish a friendly, rational, and logical communications with them is an art, and naturally all of us are not skilled artists. So, the things remains within the chests of parents awaiting for an appropriate opportunity, which very often never arises or at least when it is already too late.

The author of the book: How to bridge? The Generations Gap, has provided you this God-given opportunity, so keenly desired by all the parents. The present book was first published in Persian in the year 1963, and deals with such important topics such as The Rights of Rarents. The Child's Rights, The Responsbilities of Parents, The Teacher Rights, The Role and Neccessity of Religious, Faith, and The Hidden Treasures of the East etc. in a simple logical manner. there now, instead of wishing for the right opportunity and the right time, the parents may simply present book as a birth day gift to their children.

At this critical and sensitive juncture, when the enemies are determined to destroy all spiritual values of dear Islam with the empty materialistic ones; more then any other time in the past, there is a need to build the ideal monotheistic younger generations who could culturally and ideologically defend the fortress of Islam.

We, the Muslim parents have a duty to produce a generation who mus believe that Allah is Great: Greater then all the power of which men might be afraid of; Greater then any body who could dare to challenge His created laws. They must appreciate that Allah is not only the God of his race, his country and mankind; but also belongs to tiny creatures such as bees and ants. He is the Creator of stars, sun, moon, heaven, milky ways and other galaxies. This future generation should be free from all sorts of prejudices, narrowmindedness. nationalism, sectarianism, shortsightedness and should think about the domain of Islam for beyond the narrow limited national boundaries. They must consider themselves like a fish in the ocean of Towheed (Monotheism) as pro-claimed by Allamah Iqbal Lahori, fifty years ago.

The success of the Islamic movement in the near future will depend if we could bestow upon the young generations the enlightement regarding the Principles, Beliefs, Monotheism, Day of judgement, prophethood, Imamat, Will of Allah, Ethics, Purification of Self, Desirable Characteristics. Forbidden Characteristics, and Social obligation etc. They should be thoroughly familiar with the discouses of the Holy Qur'an and narrations about Patience, Jihad, World and Hereafter.

They must be knowledgeable about the international political issues; identify the friends and foes; be aware about the enemy onslaughts and tactics and should know how to counteract them. We, the Muslim parents are duty bound to make the younger generation familiar with all the key issues facing the Islamic Ummah.

Simultenously, we must do our utmost to produce, the younger generation who could orint their lives with the Holy Qur'an. They must feel the sweetness of the following verses in their own lives.

"And put thy trust in Allah for, Allah is sufficient as trustee."(33;3)

But Allah is your protection, and He is the best of Helpers."(3-150) If Allah is your helper, none can overcome you, and if He withdraw His help from you, who is there who can help you? In Allah let believers put their trust (3:160) "Whosoever surrender his purpose to Allah,  while doing good, he verly has grasped the firm hand, unto Allah belongs the sequel of All things."(31:22)

May Allah bless all the present, a

nd coming future Muslim generations to pay heed to the wisdom of the following verses of The Holy Qur'an given by Loqman - the wise to his son; "O my son!" (said luqman), If there be (but) the weight of a mustard-seed and it were (biddnin a rock, or (anywhere) in the heavens or on earth, God will bring is forth: for God understands the finest mysteries, (and) is well-acquaited (with them)." (31;16)

"O my son! establish regular prayer, enjoin what is just, and forbid what is wrong; and bear with patient constancy whate'er betide thee; for this is firmness (of purpose) in (the conduct of) affairs." (31;17) "And swell not they cheek (for pride) at men, nor walk in insolence through the earth; for Allah loveth not any arrogant boaster." (31:17) In this modern glittering age of science anf technology in the present 20th century, together with the wordly education, if we could produce a generation, who could feel the presence of Allah in their daily lives then we as parents must thank Him for giving us the blessing of discharging our obligations successfully.

Since completion of this translation coincides with the "Week of Eight Years of Sacred Defence" in the Islamic Republic of Iran, it will be be-fitting to dedicate theis translation to the martyrs of the imposed war, who sacrified themselves so that the divine light of Allah's revelations remain ignited forever. The history will bear withness the heroic defence of the Islamic combatants who, with faith in Allah resisted the deadly pressures of all the arrogant powers for eitght long years.

To the extent it was possible, I have tried to remain faithful to the original text but, at some places where word by word translation in English was not possible, efforts have been made to reflect the theme of main text by omitting some phrases and sentences. I wish to thank all those who have contributed to the realization of this translation, especially, Mr. Sayyid Mohammad Taqi Hakim for proof reading the Arabic text. Sincere thanks are due to Mr. Soulat Parviz for his diligence and quality work in type-setting. I convoy sinere gratitude to Ayatullah Ibrahim Amini, the learned scholar jurisprudent from the Religious Learning Center of Qom, and Mr, Ansaryan for their valuable suggestions, guidance, and encouragement. Finally, from the bottom of my heart, I would like to thank my friends for edithing, proof reading, and making helpful suggestions; and who out of modesty prefer to remain discreetly in the background.

Elucidatory footnotes added by the translator are indentified with (Tr.): all other footnotes are by Mr. Hakim himself: For any errors of commission, I take responsibility.

Sayyid Hussein Alande

r September 27, 1994

Rabi-attani 20, 1415

Tehran

Chapter   2

Preface

The Printings of this book:

This book was first printed on the 10th day of Bahman, 1342 (January 30, 1964). In response to overwhelming requests for the book by the public, the second printing soon got underway. In addition to revealing many important truths to fathers and chikdren, the book was also revised and republished in Mordad of 1343 (August 1964). Minor revisions were made in the third and fourth editions. The present work, the ninth edition, is being published by the Daftar-e-Nashr-e Farhang-e-Islami, Tehran.

Topics of this Book:

The topics presented in this book are a series of discussions on responsibilities of fathers and mothers towards their children and vice versa. During these discussions, the parent's sincerity and love for their children as well as their mutual hopes and expectations are portrayed. There is no doubt that such topics are very important. Not only are they not to be ignored, but should be considered as top priorities by the caring head of every family. The fact that youth are caught between the new and old schools of thought (the so called generation gap) on the one hand, and that parents are helplessly confronted with their children's new ways of thinking on the other, are not matters to be dealt with lightly. Both generations are troubled by these perplextities and thus ways and means by which to find an equitable solution are geatly needed. Towards fulfilling this important task, the present work attempts to point out the mutual compatibilities that do exist.

The Method used in this Book:

The subjects disussed in this book are brought out through a sries of dialogues. The fictitious characters of father and child carry on conversations in such a frank and lively fashion that they will undoubtedly touch the hears of everyone. As much as possible, current events and everyday situations have been taken under consideration in this book. In each instance, the father and his child are engaged in truly frank heart-to-heart discussion and exchange their thoughts quite freely.

The Aim:

The author's aim, through the writing of this book, is to help parents and their children enjoy the best of relationships, which is also in accordance with the divine guidance of Islam. This relationship would be free of unpleasant encounters, there would be a recognition and respect of mutual rights, and above all, their would be mutual love and fulfillment of divine responsibilities.

For What?

Generally speaking, where do differences originate? Why are relations sometimes strianed between parent and child? Why should each has his own seperate ways unconcened with the other's feelings? And finally, if one of them is following a righteous straight path, why not the other one joins him? Is cuch a mistrust brought about because of influence of the poisonous thoughts? Or, the enviroment is be blamed? How about the differences of opinion and differences beween the old and new ideas due to misunderstandings by the former? Finally, what has created such a wide Generation Gap? The answer is probably that any one of more of the above causes could be responsible for child deviation and friction with his father. But, in any case our job here is first to identify the cause and then to offer the remedy leading to a better understanding bwteen them.

Countless Factors:

On the subject matter of the responsibilities of fathers and children towards each other, child rearing. guidance in case of deviations, and the remedy of the differences of opinion between them, the topics are countless. Considering different parameters, we may expand the dimensions of our discussion and may enlarge the scope of research, especially in the present circumstances when the sun of Islam is slowly rising upon the horizon. In the same manner that his shining glory brightened the land of the Arabian Peninsula, and later spread to all distant corners of the earth, it's glistening rays have engulfed our country. The signs of blasphemy are being rid of one after another. The Islamic culture has come. once again, out of the closet1 and is being accepted heartly by masses of the people. The suppressed and the underdog, as well as the oppressed and the poor, have found a new hope for the vendication of their natural rights. In such an enviroment, in addition to religious and moral questions, we are confronted with political and social ones, each of which is worthy of research and deliberation.

Thank Allah, that the policies and the course of the Government of the Islamic Republic of Iran are becoming progressively clearer and the clouds of doubt are vanishing from them. However this does not mean that we should no longer investigate and research any problem to which we may encounter. Of caurse, a detailed comprehensive descussion regarding all the problems is out of the scope of such a brief book. Here, I have tried to address some of the problems to the extent it was possible to do so.

As soon as this book was published and reached in the hands of its readers, many of them conveyed their thanks to the outhor through their encouraging letters. More than anything else, the clarity and simplicity of the subjects emplied in this book were appreciated. And as far as I know, these small efforts have not been ineffective as there are individuals who have been guided by them. And therwith, many fathers and children have replaced hard feelings and disagreements with peace and reconciliation between themselves, returning to a pleasant normal life. Such is the story of one of the brothers in Islam who came one day to my house with his old father. He then explained about their difficulties and the fact theat reading the book "How to bridge? The Generation Gap" has awakened him to this mistake and that he had expressed his apoligies to his father and asked for forgiveness and reconciliation from him.

The Rich Culture:

The Islamic Culture from the standpoints of social, ethical, daily family affairs, and human relations is a very rich one. Also, it has contributed significantly ofr enrichment of other cultures in the world. Besides the Glorious Holy Qur'an,1 such masterpieces as Nahjul-Balaghah,2 Al-Sahifah Al-Sajjadiyyah,3 and other authentic marrations Haddiths have for long offered us assistance and guidance in finding ways to an ideal society. In fact, they act as if they have silient, but existing, teachers hidden between every other line throughout their pages. You shall notice a few samples in the following pages. They are all written in the Arabic language. It is with regret that not all of us are familiar with Arabic to be able to take advangage of these vast Islamic treasures. One cannot help but wnder why, inspite of all these, we are still seeking help from non-Islamic sources.

Of course, some authors have already translated some of thse works and have offered them to the public. I am hoping that those of our learned and knowledgeable authors who have mastered the Aravic language, and who I am certain are well

1. Very recently, Radio moscow (Russia) broadcasted a progrmme Face of Islam, announcing that the words of the Holy Qur'an are the words of an ever-living God for all the places and for all the times, and are not limited to the period of the prophet Mohammad (p.b. u. h.). Moscow is the capital of former USSR, where they waged war against God for last seventy years. Also, most recently in Holland a Muslim soldier in a ceremony for taking the the Oath of Allegiance, refused to be sworn in the name of the Queen of Holland. He was able to get exceptional constitutional permission to take his oath in the name of Allah (Key han sept 26 1994)

2. Nahjul-Balagah: The Path of Eloquence od a book containing sermon, letters, orders and some of the sayings of the Commander of the Faithful Imam Ali ibn Abi Talib (a,s) as compied by syed Razi. These sermons and preaching of Imam Ali (as) were so highly valued and venerated in the Islamic world that within a century of his death they were taught and read as the last word on the philosophy of Mnotheism, as the best lectures of character building, as exalted sources of inspiration, as persuasive sermons towards piety and as guiding becons towards truth and justice. They present the marvellous eulogies of the Holy Prophet (p.b.u.h) and the Holy Qur'an. These sermons are the most convincing discourse on the spiritual values of Islam, and contain the most awe inspiting discussions about the attributes of Allah.

The Commander of the Faithful Ali ibn Abi Talib (as) was the first perfect examplar of the teachings of the Most Noble Messenger (p.b.u.h.) 'Ali was raised by him from early childhood and followed him like a shadow until the very end of the latter's life. He was like a moth before the prophetic flame; the final moment when he was separated from the Most Noble Messenger (p.b.u.h.) was when he embraced his corpse and laid it to rest.

'Ali (as) was the first person after the Most Noble Messenger (p.b.u.h.) to approach spititual realities in the manner of philosophical reflection, thst is, by free exercise of reason. He used many technical terms and laid out and organized the rules of Arabic grammer in order to protect the Holy Qur'an from copeists' error. The exact scholarship, spiritual culture, and consideration of ethical, social, political, and even mathematical Problems shown in Ali's (as) discourses, letters, and other documents that have reached us are astonishing. The wealth of these documents makes Ali (as) the best known individual among Muslims to have a full realization of the sublime goals of the Holy Qur'an and the critical and practical concerpts of Islam as they should be realized. They testify to the soundness of the Prophetic saying, I am the city of knowledge, and Ali is it's gate,.Furthermore, he combined this knowledge with action. In short, Ali's outstanding charactier is beyond description, and is virtues are innumerable. Never in history has someone's character drawn the attention of the world's scholars and thinkers to such an extent.

3. Al Sahifah Al-Sajjadiyyah: includes certain supplications quoted from Imam Zain al-Abidin Ali b. Husain b. Ali ibn Abi Talib. (as) He is one of the Imams belonging to the household of the Prophet whom Allah has kept pure and free of defilement. The Imam was the fourth in line of the Imams of the Prophet's household. Imam Ali ibn Al-Hasain (as), was born in the year 38 A.H or, perhaps as is conjucted, a little before that and lived for a perion of 57 years.

Imam al-Shafi considered Imam "Ali ibn al-Hasain (as) as the most supreme jurist of all the people of Medina" Abd al-Malik bin Marwan said to him, "In the area of religous sceinces, in devotion and piety, you have been granted that which no one before you has had other than your ancestors". Further umbar bin Abd al-Aziz said, The light of this life, the beauty of Islam is zain al-Abidin" Al-Sahifah al-Sajjadiyyah represents and stands out as a profound social work of the time and a reflection of a supreme endeavor to meet the exigencies of spuritual ordeals facing the society at the time of the Imam. But beyond this it is a profound collection of supplications in the divine tradition, a unique compilation which will remain througout the ages as a gift to mankind, a work of moral inspiration for worldly conduct and a torch of guidance. Humam beings will constantly remain in need of this heavenly souvenir; and the need increases whenever Satan comes to increase the allurements of the world for people and by its fascination to keep them in bondage.

versed in these excellent culture sources; will fulfill their responsibilities to Islam through translating them not only into Persian but also into other languages. By doing so they may discharge their due obligations towards dear Islam and its ideal rich culture.

Why Then?

Some of our readers may complain that why, inspite of such a rich Ialamic Culture and able Muslim writers, we are relying on foreign sources. In response, I have to mention that unfortunately, due to the existesive Western propaganda in the past, they have created a sort of Westoxicated mentality, especially among our youth. This has made them strongly attracted towards the Western literary works. Therefore, it was in this backround that references were made to the quotations of some famous Western writers to attract the attention of the Wetoxicated youths. Also to bring to their attention that the learned Western scholars have already acknowledged the greatness of the work done by the Islamic authors and have bowed their heads infront of the excellence of the rich Islamic culture.

However, thanks to Almighty Allah that with the victory of Islamic Revolution now the Muslim youth have gone through a deep internal intellectual revolution of their own thrugh out the world. A strong faith in the teachings of Islam is apparent in them. And in short, they have fallen in love with the Islamic Culture.

No Confusion:

If at times, in order to prove a point of truth, we rely on someone's words, it does not necessariy mean that we always approve of all his words or deeds. We sometimes even quote our enemies. For instance, they say that Muawiyyah had said the following about Imam Ali (a.s):

"If Ali had two houses, one filled with gold and the other with straw, he would danate in the way of Allah, the former the later." -Nahjul Balagah ibn Abi Al-Hadid Vol. 1.p.22 Also, they say that Marwan has said the following about Imam Hassan (a.s): "i'?C,O`a" I'a'a~a* C,a'I`E`C,a'"

"Imam Hassan's clemency equates mountains." -Maqatul-Altalibeen p.49.

The Author's Expectatios and Hopes:

The author expects all the fathers and the children who wish to solve their problems and misunderstandings by reading this book to do so thoroughly and in an unbiased manner. And the, for the final decision, rely on their own intuitional judgement.

I hope and pray that through the blessings of the concealed facts beneath the words in this book and of the spirit of it's sentences, and of the heart of it's subject matters; each and every one of the readers will find the truth leading him? her to experience an internal spiritual revolution. May then, they be able to identify their wrongdoings they may have committed by depriving a person of his or her rights. And thereby, to offer their apologies and to make up for their past ill deeds. And, in case of they have been conducting themselves in a pleasing way, to keep up the good work. I ask Allah to grant all fathers, mothers and their children sincerety, health and happiness.

Sayyid mohammad Taqi Hakim

15th Rabiul Thani 1403

10th Bahman 1361

30th January 1982

Chapter   3

Biography

of Hujjat al-Islam Wal-Muslimeen Sayyid Mohammad Taqi Hakim He was born in the year 1926 in the famous ancient city of Shoostar, in Khozestan Province, Southwestern Iran. Both his parents belonged to religious scholarly families and therfore he spent his childhood years in a pure spritual atmosphere. His great grand father was a famous learned scholar; Allamah Sayyid Nematoallah Jazari. After finishing his primary education, with encouragement of his father he started his religious studies in 1950 at Shooshtar.

In his early theological studies at Shoostar he finished sarf-e-Mir O~N~Y' a~i'O` with Ayatullah Sayyid Mohammed Jaffar Marooj; Tasreef E^O~N~i'Y' with Hujjat al-Islam Sayyid Mohammad Baqir Hakim, and Hadaya a*I"C,i'a* under the able tutorship of Ayatullah Sayyid Mohammad Hasan Aley Tayyib. After finishing his primary theological studies within a period slightly more than two years, he was able to join the famous Religious learning Center of Qum in the year 1942. He was resident at famous Faiziyey School in Qum for five years. In his stay in Qum he received higher theological education under the able guidance and tutorship of eminent jurisprudence such as Hujjatul-Ialam Sayyid Mohammad Kazim Aley Tayyed, Mustafa Amili, Sheikh Abul Qasim Nahvi, Sheikh Abulfazal Qummi, Shikh Abul Qasim Ashtiyani, and Martyr Ayatullah Sheikh Murtaza Motahari (r.a.). Having completed his higher education at the Religious Learning Center at Qum, he went to the city of Ahqaz Khuzestan Province in the year 1947. He stayed there for four years and during this period continued higher theological education under eminent sholars such as Aytullah Marza Jaffer Ansari and late Ayatullah Sayyid Mohammad Taqi Aley Tayyeb.

In order to further pursue higher religious learning, he joined the famous Religious Learning Center at Najaf in Iraq in the year 1950. During his stay over there he completed higher religious currriculum under the tutorship of eminent learned scholars such as Ayatullah Mirza Hasan Yazdi, Ayatullah Sheikh Mohammad Taqi Iravani, Ayatullah sheikh Mujtaba Lankarani, and Ayatullah Sayyid Abdul Ali Sabzavari. Also during this perion he attended the lectures of Grand Aytullah Sayyid Mohsin Hakim (r.a.) for Dars-e-Kharij 1 as well as participated n the lectures of Grand Ayatullah Sayyid Abul Qasim Khoei (r.a.) for Dars-e-Kharij (Usool)2 After completing the advance theological learning during one year

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1. Dars-e-Kharij. The highest level of theological education relation to jurisprudence, in the form of lectures, beyond the limited boundries of text books.

2. Dars-e-Kharij (Usool) (Ibid).

and a half, he again returned to Ahwaz in 1951.

He continued his stay in Ahwaz for next 9 years, and during this period taught Jurisprudence, principles of jurisprudence, and literature at the religious learning centers. He came to Tehran in 1961 and accepted the leadership "Imamate" of the Hisar-e- Bounali Mosque in Niavaran, and has remained in this position till today.

During his stay in Tehran, apart from his responsibilities for managing the Hisar-e- Bouali Mosque and relevant social affaires; he has written numerous books and articles covering educational, theological, and ethical matters. Also, he is a professor of Arabic at the University of Tehran and at various religious learning centers (Howze-Ilmias) in Shemiran. He has a good command of the Persian, Arabic languages and is familiar with English. He has written numerous atticles which have been published in the famous magazines of Iran namely; Payam-e-Inqilab, Khanavadeh, Ayand-e-Sazan, Iman and Saf, He is a prominent scholar and jurisprudent and have produced valuable literature covering religious, social, ethical, and medicine etc. Some of his famous books may be listed as follows: Sayings of Imam ibn Jaffar (as), The guide for Hajj Rituals, Arabic-Grammar Guide, how to bridge? The Generation Gap, The Philosophy and Mesteries of Hajj, The Sayings of Imam Ali (as), Foods and Drinks, The Message of the Prophet (p.b.u.h.). The Qur'an from the tongue of Qur'an, How to recite the Holy Qur'an, Hajj Guide in accordance with the decrees of Grand Ayatullah Hakim (r.a)

He has also translated numerous literary works from Arabic to Persian. His translations include: the rights of women in Islam, and the Limits of Freedom and Rights of Women in Islam. He has recently completed a book "The life of Qazi Nourirullah Shooshtari," (956-1019 AH) who is famous as Third Martyr (shahid-e- Thalis) in the Islamic History, and was martyred by the Moghal Emperor Jahangir, his tomb is located n the city of Agra, Province of Uttar Pradesh in India.

4. An Atmosphere for Conversation

Spring has arrived and the universe is reborn. Trees once again done their fresh, green apparel. The earth becomse green and pleasant and the spring breeze is filled with heavenly fragrance. Birds are singing sweet songs. Everywhere the air is filled with joy, Sadness turns to joy. No one can tolerate saying indoors, so people, young and old, men and women, take to the fields and meadows to enjoy the spring, this new gift from God. All with their loved ones are gathered in small groups sitting around throughout the green lawns and by floweres gardens. It is a new atmosphere, Everyone has abandoned worries about anything. Every face is wearing a smile. In short, people are moved, from with, with new thoughts and aspirations. Some are lying down without caring about their neatly pressed parments, Students taking advantage of the clean fresh air, and busy studying. Families have com here to hold a family reunion. The joy of this kind of gathering is so noticeable from every face. Smiles and play are the order of the day. When tired of sitting and visiting, they strenth their legs and take a short walk.

In one such family, there was a father busy visiting wityh his child. They had put the problems of their daily lives out of their minds and were deeply involved in a heart-to-heart conversation, in a totally free atmosphere. The father had long been waiting for a opportunity to open up his heart to express his feelings openly to his child. But the pressures and difficulties fo daily life would not allow him to do so. however, this was a perfect opportunity. So, he took advantage of it and he fimally opened up. His child too, in return, did likewise in such a warm, sincere atmosphere for a heart-to-heart conversation.

5.Hospitality and Appreciation The Father:

My child! If a person invites you to dinner in his home and treats you with warmth and in a comfortable enviroment, undoubtedly you will thank him. And if one takes you out for a meal, again, you will thank him. If while on a trip, one accommodates you over night, you will never forget his kindness. If someone invites for a lunch or dinner at his house, you will always remember his favour. If one gives you a drink when you are thirsty, I do not think you would not offer him your thanks.

If one gives you a pen or a book for a gift, every time you use it, you will be thinking of him. If one helps you rest after you are tired, you will express your thanks. If one helps you with your studies, you will tell him thank you. If one gives you a helping hand, you will be obliged to him. If one lets you use his automobile, he will receive you thanks, as is the case when someone gives you a ride in his car or when one offers you his seat on a bus. And finally, if one is only kind to you by worlds and not by his deeds, there too, it is unrealistic to say you will not say thanks.

My child! How is it then that for all these relatively small favours you show your apprecaition, but to all the love, attention, care and happiness and to all the material convenieces that you parents have provided for you, you are so indifferent and are taking them for granted?

The Child:

Oh, how great it is that you have awakened me. And how appropriately you brought this to my attention! I really have been neglectful as to all you love, copassion and hospitalities and have been taking them for granted. I have done so, just as one who pays no attention to the importance of the sum simply because it rises every day. Now I confess that I am gratly indepted to you and owe you all my existence. I take this opportunity to give all my thanks and appreciation to you and my mother even though I shall never be able to compensate you enough.

6. Mistakes and Apologies The Father:

My child! When you realize you have done somebody wrong, or have treated him in a rude manner or with harsh words, you would ask for forgiveness. If you suspect you have been disrespectful to someone or when bumping into him, you would say "excuse me, please" in an apologetic tone.

In short, you do your best to please others and keep their respect and be nice to them as soon as your realize you have offended them in the slightest way. But how is it that you would not say even one word of apology to your father and mother even though you are certain you have disobeyed, belittled and been rude the them? And you to nbot try to cherish those who reared and nourished you?

The Child:

I confess that I have been wrong. And now in the name of your child who is guilty of disobedience from head to toe, I beg your forgiveness.

7.The Most Sincere Caring The Father:

My child! Whoever does anything good for you or does you a favour, expects something in return. But your parents, who through their most sincere servies and caring as well as their material means, have done their best to reise you and guatantee you comfort while growing up, have no expectation whatsoever for anything in return or to be compensated in any way. Rather, they have done so for you simply because they love you. My Child! Think and think hard. Try to see how your father and mother are trying hard. to provide you with whatever you want and need. Remember all their wishes directly or indiectly are aimed at your interest and welfare. And when you become what you wish to be, and when your dreams are fulfilled, they will be most happy for you. And they take it as if thet gave received the answer to their prayers.

My child! Don't you ever believe there is anyone on earth who will love you, or will care for you or will stand by you in the time of grief or will come to your secure, more than your father and mother do. Your Parents want your happiness regardless of anything in return. They just love you.

The Child:

The harder I took, the more I realise there is no one more worthy of respect than you, my loving parents. I know of no one kinder than you. My heart tells me your kindness toward me matches that of none. I believe it is quite natural you care for me. That is because of such caring, that you do your utmost in making me happy. I wonder how much I my self will be able to do for myself.

8. The Unmatchable Love The Father

My child! It seems that you have forgotten everything. You think you were born that big! You are ignoring the different stages in your life. And how gradually you have grown through them! Think of your childhood, and the many exhausting troubles your parents were through for your sake. Think of when you were in your mother's womb1 and she carried your weight and of how she had to suffer morning sickness and many other complications related to different stages of pregrenancy untill you were born. That was just the begining. The beginning of a series of new inconviences for her as well as for your father. Your mother would nurse you, quiet you when you were crying, she would wash you, change you and keep your clothes clean. During the night, she had to stay up in order to feed you and to lullaby you to sleep. Many time, she would beg others

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1. The Holy Qur'an describes this theme as follows: (Tr) "And We have commended unto man kindness towards parents. His mother bearth him woth pain, and bringth him forth with pain, and bringeth him forth with pain, and the bearing of him and the weaning of him is thirty months, till, when he attaineth full strenth and reachth forty years. He saith: My Lord! Arouse me that I may give thanks for the favour wherewith Thou hast favoured me and my parents, and that I may do right acceptable unto Thee. And be gracious unto me in the matter of my seed. Lo! I have turned unto Thee repentant, and lo! I am of those who surrender (unto Thee)."-(46-15)

to be quiet so you could go to sleep. When you were healthy, they would worry that you wouldn't get sick. And when you were ill, they would do their best to seek medical assistance untill you recovered your health again. In either situation, they would alter their life style to meet yours. When you became of age you needed, even if they would do that with pleasure and satisfavtion of being able to provide your food. And when you become a little older and were able to play with toys, They purchased for you toys and games.

My Child! As you grew older, they sent you to kindergarten, primary school, high school, college, and university. They paid for all your school needs to the best of their ability. They assigned a special room for your study. Around your examination time, they worry abut your test results. And whenever you receive passing grades, it would make them the happiest parents under the sun. My child! When you are happy, they are happy and when you are sad, they are sad too. Whatever troubles your body amd soul, or comforts it, would bother or comfort theirs.

My dear child! In the family setting, your father and mother would rather for you to be the one to have the best food, clothing, and accommodations. They would spare you from any unpreventable inconvience. Even if they were not concerned about their own future, They certainly cared about yours. They worked hard to send you on a vacation so you would not get tired and bored. In the summer time, they would work in the hot climate but would send you to a cool place. My child! When you were at home, looking at you brought joy to their hearts. And when you were away on a trip, you were constantly on their minds. How could they forget about you? You are in their hearts. Whoever is in one's heart is on one's mind.

My child! If you were a few minutes late in coming home from school, they would worry about you. The same way if you were late coming home after going to see a friend. Think again, and think hard. Do you have anyone else in this world who would be so much concerned about you? My beloved! You are the apple of you parent's eyes, the joy of their lives and the source of their pride. Without you, the home is such a dull place. When your parents are out, their thought are with you, and upon returning home, they step in the house with anticipation of the joy of seeing you here. My child! After your educational goal is reached and you are ready to fo to work, they will use all their night and means to help you find your desired kind of employment, so you would serve your society in the best possible capacity. And now that you are putting your education to work and starting to reap it's intellectual and material fruits, your parents have nor the least expectaition to share it's benefit with you. Instead, they are happy for your good fortune. My child! when you are ready for marriage, your parents, with their blessings and happiness, will assist you in preparing for and make happen this jouous event of your life.

My child! By the time you enter the society and occupy you place in accordance with what you contribute to it, you have gone through many life situations and in short, you have come a long way. My beloved child! Take a good look at your past. Review and analyze every event. See who had faithfully and sincerely stayed by you and helped you.

Were they any other than your father and your mother? Yes? It was only they. It was only they who help you with your problems; got rid of obstacles from your path and help you fulfill you dreams and accomplish your goals. It was they who put up with all sorts of hardships and hazards! Words cannot express the degree and extent of all such inconveniences. Is there anyone who can do so? Only Allah knows all your father and mother had suffered for your sake!

The Child:

I shall never forget all your endeavours that you, my father and mother, have done for my success, and in my upbringing. Also, I shall never be able to tell you how important you have been in my life. Or to mention the depth of your love for me. However, I look forward to finding an opportunity to express my appreciation both in words and in deeds, indeed.

9. A Gift of Allah The Father:

My child! Keep in mind that children are gifts of Allah. Do not belittle this fact. Holy Prophet (p.b.u.h.) once said: "A rightous child is a flower from flowers of heaven".

- The Book Wafi, Part 12, pages 196-197.

He also said:

"Of the signs of prosperity, the righteous child is one."

- The Book Wafi, Part 12, pages 196-197. And Imam Zain al-Abidin (as) is quoted as saying:

"One of the signs of a man's prosperity is having children from whom he gets helps."

- The book Wafi, Part 12, pages 196-197 Imam al-Sadiq (as)1 said: Once there was a man who said, he did not wish to have any children untill he went to Mecca. There at Arafat, he came across a young man with tears in his eyes who was praying to Allah for his father. Seeing that situation, persuaded me to have chidren.

- The Book Wafi, Part 12, pages 196-197.

The Child:

Yes, a child is a gift, and man has been assigned obligations for this gift as Imam al-Sadiq (as) once said:

"Sons are gift and daughters are righteous deeds. Allah holds one responsible for a gift but be rewards one for righteous deeds."

- The Book Wafi, part 12, pages 196-197.

Therefore, the father are responsible for their children and they should be careful how they treat and rear them.

____________ 1. The sixth Imam, Ja'far, known as al-Sadiq (as) (83/699-148/765). The son of the fifth Imam, he lived in an increassingly favourable climate and was able to teach openly in Medina. Large numbers of scholars gathered around him to learn, including such famous Sunni figures as Abu Hanifah, the founder of the one of the four Sunni schools of law.

Towards the end of Imam Ja'far's life severe restrictions were placed upon his activities, as a result of growing shi'ite unrest. More traditions are recorded from him than from all the other Imams together. He is so important for twelve-Imam Shi'ite law that it is named the "Ja'fari School" after him. He is buried in the Baqi, cemetery in Medina.

Ja'far's fame for religoius leaning was great, greater than that of his father or of any other Twelver Imam except for Ali b. Abi Talib (as) himself. Perhaps the earlist historical reference presenting Ja'far as one of the nost respected and highly esteemed personalities of his epoch, and as having profound knowledge and learning, is Ya'qubi's statement that it was customary for scholars who related anything from him to say: "The Learned One informed us."

Even the famous jurist of Medina, the Imam Malik b. anas, is reported to have said, when quoting Ja'far's traditions: "The Thiqa (truthful) Ja'far b. Muhammad himself told me that … " Similar compliments for Ja'far are attributed to the Imam Abu Hanifa, who is also reported to have been his pupil. Al-Sadiq's (as). knowledge was great in religion and culture, he was fully informed in philosophy, he attained great piety in the world, and he abstained entirely from lusts. He lived in Medina long enough to greatly profit the sect that followed him, and to give his friends the advantage of the hidden science.

Chapter   4

The Results of Good Behaviour The Father

My child! Think and see how do you wish your children to treat you and what do you expect from them. Then you would know how your father and mother want you to treat them, and you will understand that their expectations from you are fair and justified. My child! If you wish your children to treat you nicely, appreciate you, and fulfil their obligations to you; and in the hard times, share your sorrow; and in the good times, be the source of your pride, in short to treat you with good behaviour, then do likewise for your father and mother and set yourself as an example for them, Imam al-Sadiq (as) says:

"Treat your fathers with benevolence, so that your children will treat you with benevolence."

- Tohaf-al-Aqool,p.359

The Child: It is my ardent desire to have quite capable children to help me out, and to cherish me. Thus, as they have said, I will have to improve myself and to establish an equitable relationship between you and me so that according to the principle of equal returns be wothy of having favourite children. Right now, I pledge to treat you in no way but with utmost benevolence.

11. The Fruits of Hard Word The Father:

Whatever possessions your mother and father have, such as the house and all there is in it, real estate property and others, will someday by yours, since we shall pass away and take nothing with us. Think hard! You may even end up making better use of them. Your parents have obtained them painstakingly and with hard work. But will take great satisfaction in putting them at your dispasal. They have even bought some iterms especially for you.

The Child:

I pray that you will live for many years in happiness and in health and fully enjoy the fruits of you hard work. I do not want anything but to be able to live and enjoy life under your auspices and your protection.

12. A Good Reputation and the Family Environment The Father:

My child! It is you who can earn a good reputation for yourself through sincere efforts and good deeds, thus making your parents proud. Or, through mischievious and dishonest acts making them ashamed of you. Now, is it is not better to conduct yourself in the former fashion? That way, you will not only make us happy, but also Allah will be happy with you. This in itself is great blessing for you.

The Child:

Everyone, instinctively, wishes to earn a good reputation for himself and his parents. However, this is directly related to the type of enviroment at home provided by everybody especially the elder family members. Imam al-Sadiq (as) says:

"In every family if there exists no fellowship and adoptibilty, it becomes deprived of Allah's blessing and bounties." - Usul Kafi, Volume 11, p. 119. Also Samuel Smiles, the famous author says:

"In any family where love and order is present, it's members will have a daily life of righteousness and good deeds, it's head is wise and kind hearted. One can expect to see happy, healthy and useful children come out of it. They, in turn, will follow their parent's ways and will provide happiness for themselves as well as people around them."

- The Book of Ethics, Part I, p. 41.

Of course, at times one finds misleading factors outside the home causing the youth to go astray by surrendering to their sensual desires. That is the time when, if the parents don't come in and involve themselves to save their children, they will fall to ill repute and will be destroyed forever.

13. Hormany and Co-existence The Father:

Now that we are talking about the family enviroment, I should tell you: The green family tree will bear sweet fruits only when its roots i.e. parent are compassionate and its branches i.e. children have understanding. This tree, in whatever home happens to be, will bring about a warm and pleasant atmosphere of love.

The sweet fruit of such a tree is comfort and happiness, because the kindness of parents and the understanding of children bring harmony and peace. That, in return, prevents creation of problems and misunderstadings. Thus, no dissatisfaction and hardfeelings will appear among them, with such eo-existence, every one will discharge his own duties and will respect the right of others. The father fulfils the duties of fatherhood; the mother that of motherhood; and the children behave like children. Oh! how fortunate is a family which comprises such members and how blessed is a house that has such inhabitants.

The Child:

Your conversation having such sweet words and appropriate metaphor is every fascinating for me and in respect of content too it is meaningful and perfectly correct. There is no doubt about it's wisdom.

14. Revenge and Forgiveness The Father:

My child! When a person insults your mother or father or even treats them with disrespect, it is possible that because of natural instinct they may keep it in their heart and may look forward for a proper opportunity to take revenge from the person. However, no matter how you, my beloved child, mistreat them or how unpleasantly deals with them, they not only will not find a hatred against you but they also, will not attempt to get revenge from you.

The Child:

The purity of your hearts has impressed me so deeply. No matter how bad my behaviour should cause a slightest heartbreak, you would soon forget about it and would resume your cheerfulness.

This is because of my good fortune that the Almighty Creator has created you so compassionate to treat me with kindness and love and to never ignore me.

15. Complaining and Hoping for Forgiveness The Father:

My child! Following our discussions in the past, I do not believe you would ever mistreat, hurt or disobey us in any manner, shape or form. Nor would you turn away from us in disgust. whatever we tell you does not come from mere carnal desires, but it is inspired by our love to you and is in your interest. So, listen to us and do as we suggest so you will find sucess and happiness.

The child:

When I was a child, I was ignorant. Now that I am a young man, I am suffering from pride. these two elements have prevented me from fulfilling my obligations towards you and from pleasing you. If my immature behaviour has cause you any hardship, or if I have ignored you, I sincerely apologize. And I hope that you will forgive me, as the great people do forgive. If parents do not forgive their children, then who woudl? And if they do not excuse them, who would?

16. Sufferings and Hopes The Father:

My child! Your father and mother have suffered a lot, gone through many ups and dwons and thicks and things, joys and sorrows in raising you and bringing you up to this stage, Look now! If you prove to be a bad person, you have spoiled all their sufferings and hopes.

The Child:

Whenever, in appearance, I disagree with you, in reality internally, I feel ashamed and sorrowful. The more I disobey you, the more sorry I become. I pledge that from now on, I would be beneficial to you. If not that, at least I would not cause you any harm.

17. The Religious Beliefs vs. Superstitions The Father:

My child! Now that you have become mature, wise and of age, instead of homouring and respecting you parents, you are calling them ignorant, old fashioned and supersticious! What you call superstition, they consider regious fdknwledge and tradition. and they are deeply committed to observing them. Don't you think tye could be right? And couldn't what you refer to as superstition be a set of truths that can be understood only after comprehension and attension?

My beloved! Speak with your conscience for a moment. Think about the things you label nonsense. See if you are not mistaken. Think hard and apply your wisdom for analyzing your understanding regarding religious facts. If you feel helpless, you may seek assistance from the religous scholar. See what can you come out with? Do you find them to be superstitious? Or are they a strong moral code based on logic, science, and discovaries? I bear withness in front of my conscience that if you follow this method, and if you sincerely look into the roots and the branches of religion, you will then believe in them in a scientific and logical manner. And therefore while your parents were committed to their faith on the basis of following (Taqlid)1 of the others, you will become Muslim in your own capacity on the basis of enlightenment achieved by you, after a through knowledge of the religion.

The Child:

The illogical statements and irrational behaviour of some people in the name of religion make us turn away from it. The superstitions which appear as religious facts as well as hard to believe imaginary rituals caused us to flatly reject religion. Otherwise, most of us young people do believe in the Islamic teachings and we look at the Holy Qur'an with extreme respect. further, we have no difficulty in accepting the factual aspects of the religion.

Of course, we still need guidance in unerstanding of what we consider ambiguous and unclear. We also need someone to touch our hearts with simple but interesting explanations about our religious obligations and to convince us of the necessity of following them.

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1. A Muslim must accept the fundamental principles of Islam (usulud-din) with reason and faith and must no follow anyone in this respect without proof and conviction.

1. On the divine practical laws of Islam (ah-kamud-din) one must be either a mujtahid (authority) based on reasoning. Or, one must be confident enough in one's ablity to cautiously judge between rulings of different mujtahids (for example: If one mujtahid forbids an act and others do not, one must refrain from committing that act, or if one mujtahid makes an act obligatory and others only recommend it, one must perform that act).

2. If one is not a mujtahid and does not have such confidence in himself, then one must follow a (taqlid) of a particular mujtahid and act according to his rulings.[Tr].

18. The Right Way The Father:

The illogical words, the inappropriate deeds of some people, and the superstitions which have entered into religion, have no relationship to Islam, and they ought not be considered a part of it. One should not accept them. Instead, one must fight against them. Rejecting such things, is by no means for disbelief in the true religion. you must only stick with the truths of the religion and get rid of all he fallacies.

The Child:

Although I do not have the wisdom to tell you what to do, but allow me to say: when you find any fault with me, please try to explain it to me in a manner that I have the capacity to understand. If I ask you a question about the reasons why some act of worship is done in the way it is, or if I question the philosophy behind some others, do not get upset with me, and do not call me a disbelieving Kafir.

In School, I have studied mathematics and natural sciences and have become mostly familiar with physical reasioning. But some religious matters seem unacceptable and complex to my mind. I have to ask about such matters. If you explain the answers to me in any easy to understand language and in a nice and logical manner, I will be convinced and will accept them. It would make me happy to feel that I have been able to find the solutions. And probably, this will help me solve other problems too. therefore, you should pleased with this line of my questioning, since I am doing this only to search for and to find the truth.

19. The Role of the Religion The Father:

Our questioning bout religious matters is a highly recommended and acceptable deed. In order to have a stronger faith, one should accept religious matters only after conducting a thorough concientious research. These questions not only will not upset your father and mother, but rather, will make them hopeful of a happy future for you. That is because religion is the means of improving peoples conduct. The Prophet (p.b.u.h.) says:

"I was assigned (to Prohethood) so that human being may achieve perfection in good conduct."

- Mohjatul Baiza, vol. v.p. 89.

Anyone who approaches religion has a better conduct.

This better conduct in itself, is the source of happiness. Therefore, the parents are dutiful to accept such a child with open arms and to offer him religious guidance following logic of the Holy Qur'an as it says:

"Invite (all) to the Way of thy Lord with wisdom and beautiful preaching: and argue with them in ways that are best and most gracious." - The Holy Qur'an 16: 125 Therefore parents are obliged to provide easy answers for the diffienet religious questions raised by their children.

The Child:

It is very pleasing to see you agree with me on this particular subject. I shold thank you for the and I am hopeul that with your help and guidance, I will be able to acquire new knowledge about religion

20. All About Religion The Father:

My child! Now that you have assured me to accept the truth of your willingness and are committed to the true religion, in order to strengthen your faith and to enable you to do the same for others; I am going to offer you some explanations about the need for religion, the faith, Islam and some examples of it's exalted commandments and the spiritual and intellectual greatness of its leaders.

20.1 The Need for Religion: My child! Religion is needed for everyone. Man must have religion to enable him to have an enjoyable life. Members of society by gathering together meet their material ceeds and their industrial development but will not be satisfied with only what is rightfully their own. And if and When some of them could, they would invade other's rights in favour of their own comfort. Even if it would be at the cost of other's comfort and well being. Wisdom allows seeking that degree of comfort, which does not conflict with other's rightul interests. But beyond these limits, it would end up in deprivation of someone's genuine rights. That of course, is not allowed, since it will result in a guilty conscience. Therefore, a set of laws is needed to stop the invasion to the rights of others and rather to protect people's rights. Such laws must be general, i.e. to work day and night, at home and on a journey, inside and outside the house, when alone or in the company of others, in the city or in the country, and in short, in all given times, places, and occasions. It must be enforceble against everybody, and people must have respect for it as well as be fearful of breaking it.

A man made law, although general, may not have all these characteristics. That is to say that it may allow a person to break it at times. An example to when none is watching, one may feel free to break the law because his unlawful act shall never be discovered. He may do so simply because he is not afraid of any consequences.

However, the Divine Law which is made available to man through Allah's prophets, creates a faith in him that tells him no matter where you are, who you are or whatever the occasion may be, Allah will punish you for any sin you may commit. As Allah is everywhere, no sin will go unnoticed by Him. Therefore, the Divine Law is for the protection of society and the rights of its members. It is effective in preventing corruption. This Divine Law is nothing but religion and its articles as contained in the Holy Qur'an which was revealed to the Holy Prophet (p.b.u.h.) through Divine Revelation brought by the Angel Gabriel.

20.2 The Faith:

My child! As in the present age, the industrial and intellectual revolutions progress and the mass communications are rapidly made available, the disease "Anxienty" is progressively fon the rise. The cure ofr this disease is Imam(faith). Imam, apart from the being a social order has numerous independent benefits. Because a man with faith enjoys a feeling of peace within himself, he never feels lonesome or at a loss. Rather, he believes that some how by the divine grace he shall be rid olf his problems. A faithful person will never become fade up with life, bored or commit a suicide.

The famous Dale Carnegie, after describing his father's difficulties, debts, failures, worries and anxieties in his life, continues: "One day my father sopped his horse on a bridge over a big river and looked in the river for a long time. He was worried about his problems and was debating whether or not he should jump into the river. Of couse he did not. Years later, my father told me the only thing that prevented him from jumping into the river was my mother's strong faith. She would say: "If we love God and do what he wants us to do, everything will okey." "My mother was right. Everything did work out okey. My father enjoyed another forty two years of life. He died in 1941 at the age of eighty nine.

Througout those difficult years, my mother would never worry. Through prayers, she would take the problems to God Almighty. Every night at bedtime, she could read a chapter on faith from the Bible. We would kneel in prayer in the small country home and would beg God for his love and mercy."

- How to Live pp.178-181. Dale Carnegie again writes:

"As the electricity, water and good food are useful and important in my life, so is faith. Electricity, water and food help me to provide a better and more comfortable life, but the advantages of religion realtively far exceed than all these material things. Religion gives me fiath, hope and courage. It takes fear and anxienty away from me; determines a course and an aim for my life.

Religion, to a large extent, completes my happiness and gives me well being. It helps me find a quiet oasis during the stormy times of my life. Today, the most modern science (psychology) teaches what the divine prophets have taught in the past. Why? Because the psychiatrists have found out that prayer, meditation and having a strong religion, worry, anxiety and fear."

- How to Live pp. 181-192 One of the pioneers in the this science says:

"One who really believers in religion shall never have psychological disorders." - How to Live pp. 179-185.

"Today, even the psychiatrists are preaching religion. They do not preach religion for the sake of saving us from the fires of Hell on the world to come. Rather, from the hell of ulcer disease, Angina Pectoris, nervousness and insanity."

Dale Carnegie writes about the meeting he had with Henry Ford: "When I asked him if he had ever worried, he said no. He then said: "I believe that God takes care of everything. Besides, he needs no recommendation or guidance from me. Because God is ni charge of things, he will do everything in the best way. so there is no reason to worry." - How to Live pp. 179-185

If the late Mahatma Gandhi, who after Mahatama Gotam Buddha was the greatest leader in India, had not receoved help and inspiration from powrful prayers, he would definitely be destroyed. How do I knows this? Well, from what he himself has said:

"If it were not for the prayers, I would have long become insane."

- How to Live pp. : 179-185

Professor William James of Harward University says:

"The most effective medicine for enxienty is a religious belief."

- How to Live pp. 179-185 In another place, he says:

"Faith is one of the forces that man lives by and its total absence means the downfall of humanity."

- How to Live pp. 179-185. Still, in another place he says:

"The roaring waves on the surface of the oceans never disturb the peacefulness of their depth, and to those who are dealing with more signifecant sublim realities and who are more stable, the life's hourly ups and downs are rather insignificant. Therefore, a truely religious person is free from any sort of anxiety. He is calmly prepared to do any job that life may brings to him."

- How to Live pp. 184-188 Immanual Kant, the famous German Philosopher says:

"Have faith in God, as we need such a belief."

- How to Life pp. 184-188.

Dr. Carl Jung, the most famous psychiatrist in one of his books, writes:

"During the past thirty years, I have treated hundreds of people from the civilized world. Among thosr older than thirty five years of age, I did not find even one whose problem was not eventually related to a religious belief in life. I can say with certainly that each to them were ill because they lost what the major world religions have given to their followers. And those who had not gottenbach their religious belief, did not really get cured."

- How to Live pp. 184-188.

Dr. Alexis Correl, the author of the book, Man - the unknown, and Noble prize Winner (the greatest academic honour) in an article writes: "Prayer and meditation like the gravity is the greatest force which has an actual ecternal existence. In my medical profession, I have seen people who got rid of the their melancholy through the force of prayer after all othr treatments had failed. Prayer, like Radium, has a brilliant source of energy created by itself. Through prayer, man tries to increase his limited energy by resorting to the unlimited source of all forces. When we pray, we connect ourslvers with the endless motivational energy that connects the whole universe. We pray that some of the energy may be appropriated to our needs. According to this demand, our shortcomings will be eliminated. Then we will get up with a better feeling and with more energy. When we address God with weamth and excitement in our prayers, both our bodies and souls will change for the better. It is impossible for a man for a woman to engage in one moment of prayer without getting something possitive out of it."

- How to live 8th Edition p. 186

20.3 The Complete Religion :

My child! For the right way of life, we should choose a religion that meets with with intellect and logic; a kind of religion by which we can achieve confidence; a kind of religion that gives our hearts peace and enlightenment; a kind of religion that prevents wrongdoings; a kind of religion that makes us conduct an ethical way of life; a kind of religion with clear proofs; a kind of religion with no vague or uncomprehendable points a kind of religion that guides an supports man step-by step through life; a kind of religion that we can rely on during our difficulties and to be able to resort to it in hard times; and finally, a kind of region whose commandments and directions are fresh and lively at every epoch and that does not become obsolete by the scientific and industrial progress, but instead their hidden secrets become unveiled.

Chapter   5

Testimonies of Non-Muslims about Islam

My child! Now we have to see which religion had all the above characteristics. A study of different religious faiths indicate that Islam1 is such a religion, because it is a collection of laws that ensure the prosperity of its followers. The Islamic religion commands to perform good deeds and to avoid bad ones. The Islamic religion calls for gentleness, fortitude, patience, steadfastness, resistance, truggle and sacrifice

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1. Here it will be appropriate to refer to definations of Islam as defined by Imam Ali (as) as follows:

"Praise be Allah who revealed Divine Laws through Islam. For its followers He made its code easy to undertand and gave its principles a position so exalted and so noble the their eminence overcomes all contentions and objection. He destined Islam to be a harbinger of eternal peace and haven of unfailing security for those who enter its fold. Its doctrines provide logical and well founded arguments for those who what to defend truth and justice. Its precepts contain the best-proction for pirty and virtue."

"It is a heavenly beacon unto seekers for light, and a great source of enlightenment for inetllectual persons. Who pay due attention to it will find geat wisdom in its teachings, and its careful examination will prove it to be a very bright manifestation of the goodness of virtue. Islam furnishes most educative patterns and instances to those who want to discern between right and wrong and who are willing to accept its timely admonitions of the consequences of evil and falsehood, It brings salvation to tis testifiers, great moral strength to its believers, perpetual peace and comfort to its faithfuol followers, and considerable power of resistence against sin and vice to those patiently beat suffering in life."

- Nahjul-Balagha Sermon No.109

"You must be thankful to Allah that He made you a Muslim and selected you ro represent and propagete Islam. As its name indicates it is a religion which brings peace and salvation to mankind. He has bestowed universality of truth through its simple, distinct and intelligible code as well as, through the deeper and far reaching significance and inferences hidden in its orders and interdictions. The wonders that Islam can achieve in improving human mind and miracles it can work to raise the standard of human life, will never come to an end.

Islam holds secrets of real peace and prosperity which you will never acquire but through its help; it can direct you to ways of improving your knowledge (about material as well as spiritual world), and you can never attain this but through its guidance. The Merciful God had ordered you to faithfully accept its principles and to sincerely and diligently obey its commands and interdictions. It brings salvation to those who follow it, and worldly protection to those who enter it's folds."

- Nahjul-Balagha Sermon No.156

"Have you fully realized what Islam is? It is a religion founded on truth. It is such a fountain-head of lerning that from it flow out several streams of wisdom and knowledge. It is such a lamp that from it several lamps will be lighted. It is a tall beacon lightig the path to Allah. It is a set of principles and beliefs which will satisfy every seeker of truth and reality.

Know you all that Allah has made Islam the most sublime path rowards His supreme pleasure and the highest standard of His worship and obedience. He has favoured ti with noble precpts, exalted principles, undoubtable arguments, unchallengeable supremacy and undeniable wisdom. It is up to you to maintain the eminence and dignity granted to it by the Lord, to follow it sincerely, to do justice to its articles of faith and belief, to implictly obey its tenets and orders, and to give the proper place in your lives."

- Nahjul-Balagha Sermon No. 203

in the way of a holy cause, fainess, mercifulness, generosity, chastity, mosesty, justice, honesty, truthfulness, equality, brotherhood, know-now and performance, glory, endeavour, earning a living, an cleanliness. And it warns against inactivity, laziness, idleness, begging, treason, telling lies, arrogance, selfishness, injustices and violating the rights others.

Count Henry Decasterie, the French scientist, in the book Islam and Thoughts, writes: "Islam had occupied an extensive area of the world because of its grand and simple instructions. It was the sound and firm Islamic Laws that persuaded and uncivilized, fantical idol worshippers to accept the faith of Islam and to fly its flag not only on the roof tops of their houses but also throughout their country as well as major countries of the world."

- Hygiene in Islam

Lothron Stodard, the famous American scientist and historian says:

"For the greatness of Islam it is enough to say that despite all obstacles, it still manifests its truths and excellence in the world. It does so, because Islam is a simple and prudent religion."

- Hygien in Islam Wells, the famous English historian in the book General History writes:

"Islam is a social order, and a civil law for the humanity. It appeared in the Dark Ages and has struggled against any kind of tyranny, treason, crime, and injustice with its holy instructions."

- Hygiene in Islam Dr. Gustave Lebon, the French historian, in the book, The Islamic culture and the Arabs, writes:

"The simlplicity and clarity of the principles of Islamic beliefs and its beneficient way of dealing with masses, which is minted on the coin of the Islamic faith, is the reason for its conquering of the globe."

- Hygiene in Islam Sir Quwlliam an English in a book in Islam, writes:

"Islam like a fast horse has taken big steps in the path of human progress and civilization. It has rapidly come a long and difficult way and has entered the land of truth. Its noble commandments teach lessons in morality, sociability and conduct in a beautiful way."

- Hygiene in Islam Prince Boorguise in the book New Italy, writes:

"The greatness of Islam is apparent from the fact that the Islamic civilization began with the start of Islam and the appointment of its prophet (p.b.u.h.) whereas the European civilization became apparent six hundred years after Christ and christianity."

- Hygiene in Islam The English Lady, L.E. Cbbold, in the book, Toward God writes:

"Islam in all senses is a great and flawless social law; because its principles are on the fundamental of civilization, progress, intellect and reason, it shall never die."

- Hygiene in Islam Conte de Gobineau in the book, Three Years in Asia, says:

"Islam has brought a chaste, immaculate and flawless religion for humanity."

- Hygiene in Islam Emile der Menghem writes:

"Islam, like a loud call, moved the hearts and its awakened the East and the West from impiety and ignorance. It had such an impact on hearts that throughout ages, the human history does not remember such a spiritual revolution and a social movement"

- Hygiene in Islam Bernard Shaw, the famous writer in his book getting Married, writes:

"I have always looked at Mohammed's religion with extreme respect because it has wonderful energy and freshness. In my opinion, it is the only religion that can adjust itself to different stages of a free life. It's instructions are compatable with time.

- Hygiene in Islam

20.5 Islam and Productivity:

My child! Islam has form and valuable instructions on productivity. I will twll you of one such instruction so you would become aware of how its leaders have advised people to strengthen their financial mean and to increase their wealth through productive activities.

Imam al-Sadiq (a. s) says: "Agricultural is the greatest Alchemy" - Foru'e Kafi Fith Ed. p, 261 Everyone is in search of "Alchemy", hoping it will make their dreams in getting all they want in life come true. Here, our sixth Imam is saying that the best Alchemy is Agriculture. Whoever wants to meet all his needs must pursue them in this way. Take a good look and see how beautifully he is expressing a noble idea in such a simple phrase. What a rich and meaningful statement. One cannot but to admire its clarity. I believe on order to better introduce Islam, Its leaders and its wealth of knowledge, this sort of maxims should be written in large letters and in a calligraphic manner and be placed in all agricultural colleges and learning centers.

20.6 The Hidden Treasures in the East:

My child! Our religious leaders through interpretation of the Holy Qur'an, as a duty, have explained to us all the good and the evil. Their instructions are concerned with our individual as well as social welfare and happiness in both this world and the world to come. Their word, without any shortcoming, is a completeguide for a happy, free from anxiety, and a prosperous individual and social life.

But unfortunately, we have not pondered into them deeply enough. In many literary sources of the East and the West, I have come across the fact, that more than a thousand years ago, our Holy Book and religious leaders have been the pioneers in revealing valuable sublime realities about life. They have excelled in doing so, at a time when there were no scientific or interllectual thoughts available.

Think about it and see the guidelines and instructions our religious lerders have given us on morality, hygiene, psychological, scientific, social and political issues. And see how recently we have been getting similar instuctions as new and modern Ideas from the Western countries! At this time I would like to present you some guidalines and laws of others and in order to prove their truth would quote some Islamic religious commandments what I call, the hidden treasures (of knowledge) in the East as follows:

1. In the advanced countries, now they have found out that you cannot put a man's body and soul through too much work. And that the maximun length of work as well as minimum length of rest period should be eight hours. This idea is now a universal law, whereas this same thing was said by Imam Ali (as) more than thirteen hundred years ago. In the Nahjul-Balagha, his unique book of wisdom, he says:

a'" "A believer divides his day into three parts. He spends one for worshipping Allah, another for making a living, and another for resting and for ligitimate pleasurable activities."

- Nahjul-Balagha, p. 545

Of course, by worshipping Allah, we do not mean that one should spend all his time only in prayers, rather to become engaged in activities which pleases Him, such as serving people and charity of public interest. The Holy Prophet (p.n.u.h) said: "One who endeavours the most in goodwill toward people on earth, shall have the highest rank with Allah in the day of Judgement."

- Wafi, Third part, p.99 "The Prophet of Allah once was asked who is the most beloved person in the eyes of Allah. He relied: "'The one who benefits people most."

- Usul Kafi, Second Volume, pp.163-164 The Prophet (p.b.u.h) of Islam also said:

"He who spends a say without making any efforts in the affairs of Muslims, is not a Muslim himself." - Usul Kafi, Second Volume, pp. 163-164 The Holy Prophet (p.b.u.h) also said: "The best worshipper of all is the one who is the most truthful and the most benevolent to and the most found of the Muslims." - Usul Kafi, second volume pp:163 -164.

Thus, if a person in addition to the prescribed obligations such as the daily preyers, engages himself in such actions as assisting, encouraging others by soft words, visiting the sick and ridding someone of his problems, he has done acts of worship. If every Muslim follows these instructions, by spending several hours a day in the affairs of public interest would not then the Islamic countries be the best countries and the Muslims people be the most tranquil people of the world?

II Dale Carnegie under the heading of Don't hurt of ungratefulness writes: "The owner of a national corporation gave ten thousand dollers as a Christimas bonus to thirty four employees. None of them thanked him for it. And he was complaining about it."

- How to Live,k p. 138 Imam Ali (a.s) discussing this same topic said:

"Do not get discouraged when you do someone a favour but he does not appreciate you for it."

- Nahjul-Balagha III. Homer Croy has entitled one of his articles:

"After any hardship there is a relief."

- How to Live. p.271 First of all, the Holy Quran under this subject matter says:

"Even with difficulty, there will be relief."

- The Holy Qur'an 94;5 Secondly, still in this matter Imam Ali (as) says:

"When hardship comes to an end, relief comes about, and when the rings of difficulty become too tight, there comes comfort." - Nahjul Balagha. p. 536

IV. Dale Carnegre on page 95 of the book how to Live, under the topic of "Take with calm has no cure" concludes: "Get along and cooperate with what is incurable." He also quotes Shopenhauer as saying:

"Submitting to the incurable events is the most important provision for a journey through life."

Now, let us examine the sayings of our own religious leaders, which are full of wisdom and are based upon faith on Allah, regarding the topics earlier disdcussed. Imam Sadiq (as) says:

"About the events, the Holy Prophet (p.b.u.h.) never woud say I wish they would have happened in a diffrent manner." - Usul Kafi, Second Volume p. 63.

He also asks:

"How could could one know that he is a believer? "Through submission to Allah, and being satisfied with whatever joy or anxiety that comes his way." - Usul Kafi, second volumes p. 63

V. Dale Carnegie in the book How to live on page 130, concludes:

"Never attempt to take revenge because you will hurt yourself more then others."

With paying a little attention, you will find this same conclusion in what our own religious leaders have said. On this subject, the Holy Prophet (p.h.u.b.) says:

"Shall I advise you of the best disposition in this world and the world to come? To the one who rejects you, attach yourself. To the one who deprives you, give. And to the one who treats you with injustices, offer forgivesness."

- Usul Kafi, second volume, p.107

Also Imam Ali (as) has spoken eloquently about this matter as follows:

"In being thankful for coming out victorious forgive your enemy after you have defeated him."

- Nahjul Balagha, p.470.

My dear child! These were just a few samples of the many brilliant topics on our faith and religious beliefs that explained to you. I hope you have found them interesting. You can take it from here to see that everty single Islamic commandment is just as acceptable s these, as one can find no faults with them. Religion is an important topic and the discussions about it are extensive. There have been numerous books written on it. But for the sake of brevity, and in order to make you tired, I will stop at this point. I will never wish to impose upon you my opinion or to force you into accepting a certain belief without any logical reasioning.

As much as I thought it might be advisable, very briefly, I offered my guidance. That, I feel is enough for you. The rest, I shall leave up to you. Allah has granted man intellectual power by which he may distinguish the Good from the evil, and accordingly may select the best course for himself. I whole heartedly accept and faithfully believe in the matters I have just discussed with you. You can think them over and if your intellects permits you may accept and believe in them, as well as other Islamic instructions and obligations regarding prayers, social, and ethical issues.

The Child:

Your explanations about religion have enlightened me and have created an optimism in me. Now I am looking at religion with respect. What I have learned from you, has made one realize that what I thought to be ambiguities in religion in fact are not. Rather, I had not understood them correctly. Through asking qauestions and research, we must eliminate any such uncertainties. At last, I understand that Islam can be a world wide religion. It can manage the affairs of people. And it can establish discipline and universal peace. And finally it can provide eternal happiness for mankind.

My child! My purpose of speaking about the religious issues was for you to become familiar with a sample of the beliefs of you father and mother, and to become certain that it is not without reasons that they are fond of religion. Even, if these discussions did not convince you, and if you still are of your old opinion about them, and should think your parents are old fashioned and supersticious, this rights, to be rude to them or to treat them disrespectfully. As the rights of your parents are natural and intellectual and in any case they are inviolabel. e Have you not ever heard of a Christian youth by the name of Zakariya who became Muslim and who went to Medina to Imam al-Sadiq (as) and said to him:

"I was a Chirstian, now I have become Muslim. My father, mother and entire family are Chirstians also my mother is blind. Do you see it advisable for me to stay with them?"

The Imam Said:

"Certainly, be good to your mother and pay attention to her."

- Usual Kafi, New edition, 2nd Volume, p. 16 The youth, upon the return to his home town of kufa, started to render his services to his mother. And more than ever before, he treated her with kindness. So much so the it surprised his mother. She inquired about the reason of his extreme kindness after becoming Muslim. He told her of the Imam's advice. She was impressed and consequently, she too accepted Islam.

The Child:

Of course the matter of religious beliefs has nothing to do with the rights of parents. They exist whether the child is in agreement with parent's principles and beliefs or not.

Chapter   6

The Rights of Fathers and Mothers The Father

My child! Even if the Holy Qur'an and the religious leaders had not advised you on how to treat your father and mother, your intelligence would command you to honour them. And as far as human nature is concerned, treating them wityh due respect is a must. There are many verse in the Holy Qur'an, as well as many statements concerning the topic. The Almighty, in the Holy Qur'an says:

"And your Lord has decreed that you shall not worship except Him and honour your parents. For as long as they live, one of them or both of them, you shall not speak harshly to them or mistreat them; you shall speak to them amicably. And lower for them the wings of humility and kindness and say: My Lord, have mercy on them for they brought me up from infancy.

- The Holy Qur'an 17: 23-24 The Almighty Allah in another place in the Holy Qur'an says:

"We enjoined the human being to honour his parents; his mother bore him as he got heavier and heavier and cared for him for two years until weaning. You shall be appreciative to Me and to your parents. To me is (thy final) goal."

- The Holy Qur'an 31:14 The Holy Prophet (p.b. u.h.) in answer to a person who had asked what right has father to his child, said:

"The child should not call him by his name. Neither should he walk in front of him: nor be seated before he is seated and he should use no evil words, to anyone, except after one has used evil words against his father."

- Usul al-Kafi, New Edition, vol.II pp. 159-161 A foster sister of Prophet once went to his visit. The Holy Prophet (p.b.u.h) treated her with utmost love and reapect. After she had left, her brother went to his visit. But he did not receive as much attention from him. People present at both meetings, asked athe reson. The Holy Prophet (p.b.u.h) explained:

"The reason is that she had treated parents with more respect and kindness than he had."

- Usul al-Kafi, New Edition, vol II.159-161 Our Fourth Imam, Imam Sajjad (as) says:

"You are indebted to your mother for she carried you in a manner that no one else did. She fed you the essence of her life whereas no other person did. she fed no other person such food.

She used her entire being for the purpose of protecting you. Whereas, she would not care about herself being hungary or thirsty, she fed you and quenched your thirst. She dressed you well when she had no cover for herself. If she were in the sun, she would put you in the shade. She deprived herself of a peacful sleep for you sake, She proctected you from heat and cold. She did all these so you would stay alive for her. Oh human, without Allah's help. you shall never be able to thank her enough! And you are indebted to your father for that he is your roots. If he were not, you would be not give him credit for all good fortunes you may have, because he is the one, who is the basis for them. Be grateful and appreciative to him. And there is no power except by Allah."

- Wafi, 3rd part, 0.127  Imam al-Rida (as)1 quotes the Holy Qur'an where Allah say:

"Oh human give thanks unto me and unto your father and mother."

- Oyoon Akhbar al-Rida, p. 143 Therefore, he who does not appreciate his parents, he does not appreciate Allah. Again Imam al-Rida (as) says:

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1. The Eighth Imam, Ali, known as al-Rida (as) (148-203/817). The son of the seventh Imam, he lived in a period when the Abbasids were faced with increasing difficulties because of Shi'ite revolts. Finally the caliph al-Ma'mun thought he would solve the problem by naming the Imam as his own successor, hoping thus to ensnare him in worldly affairs and turn the devotion of his followers ways from him. After finally being able to persuade al-Rida (as) tp accept, al-Ma'mun realized his mistake, for Shi'ism began to spread even more rapidly. Finally he is said to have had the Imam poisoned. Al-Rida (as) is buried in Mashhad in Iran.

"He who does not express his appreciaton for a gift, given to him by someone, has not indeed thanked Allah."

- Oyoon Akhbar al-Rida, p. 194 The Child:

Of course, the wisdom advises one to honour one's father and mother. And Holy Qur'an as well as our religious leaders confirm such as advise.

23. The Chid's Rights The Father:

My child! In order not to judge in a one sided manner, I should tell you that as any child is obligated to his parents, they in return are obligated to him too. In reply to a man who had asked about his obligations to his child, the Holy Prophet (p.b.u.h) said:

"It is for you to give him a good name and to raise him in a good manner and to teach him an appropriate trade"

- Wafi, 12th part, pp. 210-211 The Holy Prophet (p.b.u.h) has other points in this respect such as:

"Teach your children swimming and archery."

- Wafi, 12th part, pp. 210-211 "Parents are equally obliged to discharge their responsibilities towards their children and are accountable in case of failure. Similarly children are responsible to discharge their obligation towards parents"

- Wafi, 12th part, pp. 210-211

"May Allah have mercy upon those parents who help their children so that the children could reciprocate the same tawards them. They asked how can they help. He replied by accepting any easy task he may fulfill; and by not requiring him to do hard labour; and by not being rough and unfair to him."

- Wafi, 12th part, pp. 219-211 Imam Ali (as) says:

"Do not force your children in having the same characteristics as you do. Because they created in an era which is different from yours."

- Al Imam Ali, vol. III, p 733 Further he said: "A father has three obligations towards his child: 1. To give him a good name, 2: To raise him in a good manner, and 3: To teach him Holy Qur'an.

- Nahjul Balagha, p. 546.

I think, by this, he does not merely mean the proununciation of Qur'anic words, but rather the practice and implementation of its commondments, method, and its exalted moral guidelines in their day of day lives. You should familiarize yourself with the sublim realities in the Qur'anic text, so that you can meet your spiritual needs. What better honour is there to lead a life according to the teaching of the Holy Qur'an. Our fourth Imam, Imam Sajjad (as) says: "You should be aware of the fact that your child has come from you and that people associate his good or bad deeds with you. You are responsible to teach him good manners, and to guide him to the way of the Creator of the World and to help him on obeying Him. Most assuredly, you will be rewarded for the being good to your child, and will be punished for abusing him."

- Wafi, Part III, p.127 Imam al-Sadiq (as) says:

"He who is beneficient to his child, is so to his parents" - Wafi, part II, p. 211 Our seventh Imam, Imam Musa al-Kazim,1 (as) says:

"It is appropriate to encourage a boy during his childhood to do difficult work in order to grow up a patient and meek adult." - Wafi, Part II,P. 211

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1. The Seventh Imam, Musa, entitled al-Kazim (128/44-183/799) The son of the sixth, he was contemprerary with such Abbasid caliphs as al-Mansur and Harun al-Rashid. He lived most of his life in Medina with several restrictions placed upon him and finally died in prison in Bagdad. After him, the Imams were oftern not able to live in their traditional home of Medina, but were forced to remain near the caliph in Baghdad or Samara. He is buried in Kazimayn in Iraq.

The Child:

As you admit for the most part, rearing a child and preparing him for a material and spiritual life is up to his parents.

24. The Responsibilities of Fathers & Mothers The Father:

My child! based on the verse in the Holy Qur'an that advise benevolence to parents, next to worshipping of Almighty Allah, it is undrstood that next to our obligations to Him, there is no greator obligation than that to our parents.

The Child:

My honourable father! Your responsibilities to me as parents are as great as your authority over me. It is all up to you as to how you raise and rear me and and how to educate me. Our times are different from each others. Our enviroment too is different from that in which you wre grewing up. A simple life, with no means of corruption and not too many social obligation or luxuries, raised you to the way you are. But I was born into this world in the age of Atom, machine and cinema and in a polluted enviroment.

As if I were to spend all day and night serving you would not be too, much, you should do likewise for me, and have a watching eye day and night one me in this rough sea (of life). If I am about to drown, grab my hand and rescue me. Parents should periodically go to their children's schools and inquire about their education and behaviour from their teachers. Ask about their associates and close friends and particalarly to ask about where they spend their time when they are out for the evening.

At night at home they should help their children with their homework by offering them guidance. If they are about to engage in an unwise activity, they should stop them by explaining to them the harms that may be involved. In this way, they will learn from their parent's past exprinces. Of course, their involvement should not be deterimental to the children's independent personality or to their confidence building.

25. Rearing of a Child The Father:

My child! Speaking of rearing of a child, I must agree that a child is capable of being trained. If it were not so, we the parents, would not have been obligated for your upbringing. He also is capable of improving. Many evil doers who received the right kind of advice became righteous people. And many ill-tempered accepted guidance and converted into good natured gentle individuals. So, in this manner, it is only wise for parens to offer their good advice to their children whenever they note the later are starting to misbehave or the weaken their religious beliefs. Not by beating them up or by putting them under material pressure, or by kicking them out of the house. Rather, by offering advice or by having a mutually trusted individual talk to them and give them guidance. Furthermore, in a sumpathetic way, they should pray to Allah that the child be corrected. they should rest assured that he will then be guided.

A man named Dawood (David) went to Imam Musa al-Kazim (as) complaining about his own son that he had wasted a large amount of his money. The Imam said to him:

"Try to correct your child. And know that compared to the blessings of having a child, one hundred thousand Dirhams (dinars) are nothing." - Wafi, part XII, p. 211 The Child:

As you just mentioned, the best way to rehabilitate a child and bring him back to doing good deeds again, is by twlling him the solutions in a soft voice and in a respectable manner. One should avoid harsh words so the the child would feel that all that is being said is well intended and is only for his welfare and that the purpose is to change his course to the right path in life.

26. Importance of Mother's Rights

My child ! please be aware that the rights of mothers are more important than that of the father. An individual once asked the Holy prophet (p.b.u.h) "To whom should I be kindest?" He replied: "Your mother." Then he asked: "After her, to whom" He again said: Your Mother". The man asked the same question for the third time. The reply was the same, Your Mother". And he repeated his question for the fourth time, the Holy Prophet (p.b.u.h.) answered him "Your Mother."

- Usul Kafi, New Edition Tehran, Vol. II p. 159 Again a man asks the Holy Prophet (p.b.u.h.) about being kind to parents. In reply for three times, he said: "Your mother": and oly then he said " Your father."

- Usul Kafi, New Edition Tehran, Vol. II P. 162

Perhaps there are two reasons for this importance: (A) Motherly affection, and (B) Mother's influence on the child's character. 26.1 A. Motherly Affection:

It is the mother who suffers more pain in taking care and in protection of the child. She nourishes and brings up the child in her love filled lap until she delivers him to the society. One would be quite astounded to realize what a mother does for her child. Only then, one would agree that none would match a mother. Not even an affectionate maid or babysitter. Suppose a maid or a babysitter is able to offer the services, they do so in return of a wage, not merely for the affection to the child.

26.2 B. Mother's Influence on the Child's Character:

The mother lays the basic foundation of the child's bahaviour and character. As through her mild she provides nourishment for the body, through her teachings, she strengthens his spirit. Consequently, the child inherits his mother's mannerism, habits and other characters since early infancy and will keep them throughout his life. Fanally, the child's happiness depends on the way he is reared by his mother. The Holy Prophet (p.b.u.h) says:

"Do not select stupid women or women with visual important for nursing your children because milk affects character."

- Wafi, part XII, p. 27 Imam Ali (a.s.) says:

"Be careful as to who nurse your children since they will grow up with same milk." - Wafi, Part XII,PP. 27-27

He also says:

"No milk is more blessed for a child than that of his own mother." - Wafi, Part XII, pp. 27-28 Imam Baqir1 (a.s.) says:

"Choose good natured women for nursing your children and avoid the evil one because milk transfers character." - Wafi, Part XII,pp.27-28

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1. The Fifth Imam, Hummad, known as al-Baqir (57/675-114/732). The son of the fourth Imam, he was present at Karbala at a young age. Because of changing political and religious conditions, among them the general revolusion following the events at Karbala, many people came to Medina to learn the religious and spiritual sciences from him. He trained numerous well-known men of religion, and mainly for this reason is the first Imam after 'Ali from whom large numbers of traditions are recorded. He buried in the Baqi cemetry in Medina.[Tr]

Samuel Smiles says:

"Those who swing children's cradles are more influential than those who run the government."

- The Book of Ethics, Part 1, pp. 38-48 "Rearing of a child begins at the time of his first smile."

- The Book of Ethics, Part 1, pp. 38-48 "Infancy is like a mirror. It reflects whatever is placed in front of it."

- The Book of Ethics, Part 1, pp. 38-48 "The model constantly present in front of the child is his mother"

- The Book of Ethics, Part 1, pp. 38-48 "Mother has far more influence on the child than does his father."

- The Book of Ethics, Part, pp. 40-54 An Ancient Greek once said: "If you put your slave in charge of rearing your child, soon you will have two slaves."

- The Book of Ethics, Part, pp. 40-54 George Herbert says: "One good natured mother is worth one hundred teachers."

- The Book of Ethics, Part, pp. 40-54 John Randolph, the will known American politician says: "Only one thing saved me from becoming atheistic. That was the thoughts of the moments when my mother in her death bd took my hands and placed me on her lap and made me repeat after herm her belief in the Lord."

- The Book of Ethics, Part, pp. 40-54 It has been said that: "A good mother is nature's masterpieces."

- The Book of Ethics, Part, pp. 40-54 Napoleon Banaparte used to say: "A child's good and bad behaviour always depends upon that of his mother."

- The Book of Ethics, Part, pp. 40-54 Adams, the American President, says: "During infancy, I had the greates blessing anyone could have. That, having a mother who was capable of raising a family in an excellent instructions from her. If there are any shortcomings and deviations in my life, it is of my own fault and it has nothing to do with her"

- The Book of Ethics, Part, pp. 40-54 Joseph Demister, after discussing the inventions and art works produced by some famous men, continues that: "It is true that women have produced no such things, but what they have done is far more important than all these works because it is women who have raised such pious and industrious men."

- The Book of Ethics, Part, pp. 40-54 He throughout his works, refers to his mother with love and respect. In one instance, he says:

"Good natured mother was a heavenly angel who was bestowed a human body temporarily by God." - The Book of Ethics, Part, pp. 40-54 Goethe had a great affection and love for his mother. About her he says: "My mother had excellent qualities for living."

- The Book of Ethics, Part, pp. 40-54 And when he was in Frankfurt, he would meet with all people who had in any way been kind to his mother and would thank them for that. Samuel Johnson talks with extreme respect about his mother. "She was a wise and well educated woman who enforced religious sentiments in him since early childhood. And in appreciation, he, with his small income, would provide all kinds of conveniences for her."

- The Book of Ethics, and Editions, Part 1, pp. 50-54

The Child:

I admit that the rights of mothers are extremely important. That is why to mother, I say " I shall never forget about your contribution as my mother, I have read that Heaven is under the footsteps of mothers like you and happiness comes through being obedient to you. I consider that a big mistake on my part if I am not a decent and worthy child, for you. And a life in which I do not fulfill my obligations to you would be a miserable life."

I am certain that you will be happy with me even if I am not good to you. And no matter how nasty I am. you will forgive me. Your being happy with me, and your forgiveness is enough to make me happy in life on this earth and to save me forever from Allah's wrath on the Day of Judgement.

Chapter   7

The Exciting Words The Father

My child! We have inherited from our fourth Imam, Ali b. Husain (as) a precious encyclopedia in the form of supplication and requests from Allah, by the name of al-Sahifah al-Sajjadiyyah. I am going to read to you a passage from this book on the topic of our discussion. I hope to draw your attention to some exciting words in connection with one's obligations to his father and mother. The honourable Imam with much fear in his heart, sits in prayer in front of glory and majesty of Almighty Allah and in a humbling voice says:

"O Lord, bless Muhammad, Thy servant and Thy Apostle and the holy people of his house.

Distinguish, O Lord, my parents with excellence before Thee and grace from Thee, O Most Merciful! O Lord, bless Muhammad and his descendants. Acquaint me by inspiration with the knowledge of what is due unto them from me. Collect for me the complete knowldge of all this. Cause me to act according to what Thou reveal to me by inspiration. Give me grace to penetrate into such of this knowleges as Thou teach me till I omit to perform nothing Thou has taught me. Do not let my limbs grow heavy (so as to prevent them) from the discharge of what Thou reveal unto me.

O Lord, bless Muhammad and his descendants as Thou hast exalted us with him. Favour Muhammad and his descendant as Thou has given us claims upon Thy creation bexause of him. Make me fear my parents as I would fear a despotic ruler and love them with the tenderness of an indulgent mother. Let me obedience to my parents and beneficence to them be sweeter to my eyes than sleep is to the drowsy, cooler to my beast than drinking water is to the thirsty, till I give prefrence to their wishes over mine and precedence to the satisfaction of their needs over mine.

Let me over-value their benevolence to me, even in small things and under-value my beneficence to them, even in great things.

O Lord, let me lower my voice for them.

Let my speech be agrrable to them

Soften my conduct towards them.

Let my heart be kind to them.

Make me tender and lenient unto them both.

O Lord, reward them for bringing me up.

Recompense them for loving me.

Guard them as they guarded me in the my infancy.

O Lord, whatever pain they may have received from me, whatever displeasure may have been caused to them by me or whatever duty owed to them that was left unperformed by me, let that be a pardon of their sins, and exaltation of thier rank and an addition to their good deeds. O Thou, who does change evil deeds into multiplied good deeds!

O Lord, that speech in which they were unjust to me. or that action in which they were extragant against me. or such of my claims as they faidled to satisfy, or such debts as they faidled to discharge, verily, I forgive it to them and favour them therewith. I turn unto Thee with a view to removing the penalty thereof from them.

For verily I do not accuse them falsely of haveing done something to my hurt, nor do I deem them negligent in doing good to me, nor do I despite the care they took of me, O Lord! Because their claim upon me is so great, their benevolence to me so magnificent and I am os highly obliged to them, that

I cannot fairly meet, it nor repay them as they deserve. O my God, how can I repay them for their tedious employemnt in bringing me up. For their hard labour in guarding me. For their self-denied to lavish comfort upon me.! Alas! alas (I cannot).

Their claim can never be satisfied by me, nor can I perceive what is due from mr unto them nor can I fully discharge the duty of serving them! Therefore, bless Muhammad and his descendants. Help me, O best of all those whose assistance is solicited. Give me grace, O Greatest of Guides, towards whom people turn.

Do not let me be of those who wronged their fathers and mothers on the day wherein " every soul shall be paid what it has merited and they shall not be treated with injustice.

O lord, bless Muhammad and his descendants. Distinguish my parent, in particular with the best distinctions which Thou hast confrred upon the fathers and mothers of Thy true believing servants, O Most Merciful.

O lord, do not let me forget to remember them after my ritual prayers, at every time of my night and at every hour of my day. O God, bless Muhammad and his descendants. Forgive me for the sake of my prayers for them. Grant a sure pardon to them because of their goodness to me.

Be perfectly satisfied with them through my intercession for them. Bring them by Thy Mercy into places of safety. O God, If Thy Pardon for them has preceded (my prayers), than make them intercessiors for me.

If Thy pardon for me has preceded (Thy forgiving them.) than make me an intercessor for them so that we may be gathered by Thy Mercy in the place of Thy grace, the place of thy pardon and Mercy. For verily Thou art the one Whose Munirficence is Great, Whose kindness is eternal. Thou art the Most Merciful." - Al-Sahifa Al-Sajjadiyyah, Prayer number 24 (For parents)

The Child:

No matter how hard or how long I tried, I would not be able to observe the sensitive and important subjects on fathers and mothers as it is apparent from the beautiful and meaningful and concise words of our Fourth Imam. Every single sentence of his statements are an indication of how deeply he thinks and of how knowledgeable he is. Such words can come only from an individula of excellent calibre and a pious man as Imam Sajjad (as). Hearing him had such an impact upon me as if he woke me up from a deep and long sleep. I pray to Allah, by the glory of this holy man and his words, to grant me that ability to put these words practice.

28. The Limited Obedience The Father:

My child! As important as it is to obey your father and mother, you should know that is is not an absolute must. In instances where the parents are corrupt and they encourage the child in doing wrong and illegal actions, one ought not obey them. Nevertherless, treating them with respect is always recommended. The almighty Allah says:

"But if they strive to make thee join in worship with me, things of which thou hast no knowledge, obey them not, yet bear them company in this life with justice (and consideration)"

- The Holy Qur'an 31:15 Imam Ali (as) in Nahjul-Balaghah, which after the Glorious Qur'an is the best guide for mankind, says:

"An obligation of a child to his father is to obey him in all but not sinfulness actions." - Nahjul Balaghah p. 546

The Child:

Yes, what you are sayingk is absolute truth. Of course, breaking Allah's rules even upon the insistance of father and mother is wrong.

29. Forever The Father:

My beloved child! You are not only advised to treat your parents with respect in their lifetime, but after they die too, you must speak of them with honour. You must beg Allah to forgive them. For, if you are a child worthy of your father, you can still earn your parents rewards from Allah. Imam al-Sadiq (as) says:

"After a man dies, he can still rewards from Allah in three defferent ways:  1. From what he has left behind which still benefits he public.

2. From establishing a useful tradition be followed by others after his death, and

3. From prayers done in his name by pious child."

- Wafi part 13, p. 90

So, when your parents are dead and no longer are able to do rewarding deeds for themselves, you can come to their help. You can be thinking of them and make them happy by asking Allah to bless their souls. As they thought of you throughout their lives.

The Child:

I pray to Allah to keep you and protect you for many years to come, and to succeed in doing my best in fulfilling my obligations to you; and to make both of you absolutely happy with me.

30. The Eldest Brother The Father:

My child! In the same way that fathers are worthy of everybody's respect, the eldest brothers ought to be honoured by all their siblings. Furthermore, the later should regard hm as their father.

Our Eighth Imam al-Rida (as) had a saying in this regard:

"Your eldest brother is like your father."

- Wafi, part 14, p. 79

The Child:

Of course, he deserves such a high respect provided that his attitudes towads all his siblings are as that of his father. He is to treat them with brotherly love and compassion. Be nice rather than cruel to them at times. In short, be like a father to them.

31. Caring For the Family and The Mankind The Father:

My child! In same manner that one should honour and respect his parents, it is appropriate that he be compassionate to his spouse, children, brothers, sisters and all his relatives, so life would become pleasant for him. Lord Aviboury says:

"One must have love and kindness in every aspect of life. What is a home without love likes? How is life possible in such a home? It is possible to have a beautiful buikding equipped with all facilities and appliances. But such a place without love is noting less than hell. On the other hand, if you base you home on love and friendship, you can live there in happiness forever after."

- In Search of Happiness, pp. 107, 139 He further continues: "Life in this world is like dream.1 It does not last long. Here man is like a drop of dew that shiness of a few moments then suddenly he disappears. In this case, why should we spend this short life with misery and hardship? In our short lifetime, we should love one another and enjoy each others friendshie."

- In Search of Happiness, pp. 107, 139

The Child:

Of course, loving and caring for family, relatives and friends and all minkind, brightens our hearts and makes life a more pleasant and joyous one to live.

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1. In a poem written in 1982, William Buttler Yeats commented on the brevity of human life:

"From our birthday untill we die is but the winkling an eye."

Also the Holy Qur'an says as follows:

He says: "What number of years you did stay on earth?"

They will say: "We stayed a day or part of a day, but ask those who keep accounts."

- The Holy Qur'an 23: 112-113 [Tr]

32. The Spiritual Fathers The Father:

My child! As in the same way that you are greatly indebted to your parents, we are oblitgated to the Holy Prophet (p.b.u.h.) and to our other religious pioneers and leaders. Our Holy Prophet (p.b.u.h) founded the religion of Islam. Imam Ali (as) and other Imams trenthened its foundation as far as they possibly could propagate it, and struggled diligently for the betterment of Islam and the Muslims. They took great pains in strenthening and protecting Islam's roots against dangerous and cataclysmic events througout their lives.

These true leaders have always had peopl's interest in mind and have issued instructions for people to follow in order to achieve complete happiness in life. Through their divine influence on masses, they were able to attract their unshakeable loyalty. The later were even willing to sacrifice their own lives for the Imams.

Through following their philosohy, one can learn about perseverance, faith, strong belief, struggling for the cause fo liberty, self sacrifice, serving others, suppressing injustice, assisting the oppressed and finally bout love for human beings. My child! The entire world pay homage to the excelent thoughts and firm institutions of our religious leaders.

The Child:

Of course, to be fair to our religious leaders is to put their words of guidance into practice. and to model our actions after their actions. If we could sincerely implement their guidelines our society will become the most dynamic, prosperous community of mankind. Simply, knowing theri noble characters and greeting and remembering them with honour, is not enough. I say so, because I know of people who speak of their love and respect for our Imams and utter excellent salutations after upon hearing their names and even in some instances, will rise in their honour, but when it comes to act according to thier instructions, it is something else. They forget all about them.

In my opinion these sort of people simply deceive themslves, and feel happy that they are the followers of the Holy Prophet (p.b.u.h.), Imam Ali (as), and other religious leaders. Because their acts and deed do not reflect any traces from these exalted leaders. Certainly, the Prophet and innocent Imams are unhappy with these type of people. As Islam is a practical religion, only those who adhere to and practice according to its principles, will benefit from Islam.

33. The Teacher's Rights The Father:

In addition to parents obligations, Islam attaches special regards for the teachers right. We must appreciate their existence and should discharge our duties and obligations towards them. Is is believed that Imam Ali (as) has said.

"The one, who had taught me one word had indeed earned the rights of masterhood upon me."

It is the teacher who fights ignorance or in other words fights illiteracy. He sacrifices his productive years educating and nourshing peoples minds. Finally, it is he who delivers these services and through his endeavours brings value to the society.

A famous Iraqi poet by the name Rassafi has written a beautiful and meaningful poem in praising teachers, describing their contributions in an appropriate manner, as follows:

"Whenever ignorance misleads people, there is nothing for propgress except learning. If I am asked, 'when people are deep in corruption, who is the one who can save them out of its? I would "the teacher'. The teacher of the chidren of the country, are also their physicians who treat their ignorance. As lact of knowledge is pathogenic. The teacher is like a brights star shining in the society's sky, who guide the knowledge seekers to glory and greatness.

Do not underestimate your indebtedness to your teacher. It equals that to your parents and even more. Your wisdom comes from your teacher while your muscles and bones are from your parents. It is our duty to teach the illiterate and it is theirs to learn. Allah has not commanded the people to learn without first making arrangement of divine teachers (the prophets) and the heavenly books.

- Iraqi peot Rassafi A persian poet too, says:

"Higher than rank of the father is that of the teacher. As the former nourishes one's body while the later. his soul." George Herbet says: "O God! You have prodived for us in every way. At first with our parents to bring us up, and later with our teachers to nourishe our minds and to teach us the laws of intellect."

- The Book of Ethics, Part 1. p. 37 Immanuel Kant says:

"It is only through education that man can culturally become a most complete or perfect human being. In fact he is the result of his education." - The Philosophy of Education, Vol. 1 p. 41

The Child:

In general, teachers, professors and those serving others through educational activities play an important part in people's happiness. One can easily state that the people's future depends on the way the educators educate them.

Of course they should be sincerely devoted teaching and should bestow knowledge upon their pupils. They must possess a pure heart and be of excellent character to succeed in educating good-natured and enlightened students. Because to receive good quality education and to learn good character, the students are entrusted to them. Only after they have successfully taught their students, the teachers have fulfilled their grave duty. An accomplished teacher succeeds in replacing eveil characters by food ones. Of course, such teachers are worthy of high recognition and respect and are considered valuable and useful to the society.

34. The Fatherly Guidance The Father:

My child! Do take advantage of your youth and do not waste it. Use those unreturnable years to prepare yourself for your golden years. Bravery is not when one spends his younger years in lewdness and drunkenness. Rather, it is when, inspite of his youthfulness and energy, proctects himself against any kind of sinful act, and to put his futures's well being ahead of his sensual desires and to follow his intellectual judgement in every situation.

There are some young people who know nothing about good mannerism and good behaviour. They should try to better themselves while there is still a chance and before it becomes too late. They should also free themselves from indulgence in their own desires. Instead, they should try to conduct themselves with modesty and to protect themselves behind a strong shield of chastity.

But, unfortunately, sometimes they are so deeply involved in such a degree of negect thaat they cannot find a way out and fail to have any forsight. Undoubtedly, someday they will be sorry, But then, it will be too late as they have lost all their chances. My child! I am afraid you will grow up to be one of them. Choosing to lead a rebellious life, you may have a future similar to theirs.

The Child:

Your fear about my future is justified because one can expect just about anything from an unexperienced young individual. But, I am hoping that with your guidance and advice you will help me find the right path and that I will be able to follow it steadfastly.

Chapter   8

A Word of Advise The Father

My child! Improving and refining you character and manners in more important than learning a trade or a skill and it is of more value for you than an education. I say so because an education without a good character to accompany it, and a skill in the absence of a good nature are just uesless! My child! Arm yourself withy good morals and pay as much attention to your conscience as to you physical appearance. My child! Do you wish for me to be like a mirror for you to tell you about your good and bad deeds? And you good and bad qualities?

And if I ever tell you of them, will you then stop the bad ones? And will you keep up with the good ones? And will you better yourself in this way? How nice it would be if you decide to do so. My child! Stay away from associating with evil-natured people. Avoid mixing with them, as it will destroy you. Many a celebrated youth who kept company of unsuitable people became misguided: and many corrupt individual.

who associated with the virtuous became virtuous himself.1 My child! If you do not learn from my advice, nature itself will teach you! The life's hardships and difficulties will punish you. The common everyday problems in life will knock you off your feet. Only then, you will realize that we have always had your interest and will-being in mind. And so far, all we have shown you has been a straight and safe path - and not a slippery one. And what we have warned you against has been a slippery path - and not a straight and safe one!

The Child:

What an honour and pleasure for me that you be my tutor to bring to my attention my good and gad characteristics through honest criticism. So if you see any wrong doing in me. please first make me aware of it. And then show me the solution and how to correct myself. If I am corrected, it would be only, because of you and if I am not, please do not persist in correcting me. And do not turn away from me and please do not set me free on my own.

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1. According to famous Iranian poet Sa'di. Whoever associates with bad people will be see no good. If an angel associates with a demon He will learn from him fear, fraud and hypocrisy. Of the wicked thou canst learn only wickedness. A wolf will not take to sewing jackets.

- The Gulistan (Rose Gurden) of Sa'di, p. 246

Also ther is a famous verse from Molavi as follows:

The son of prophet Noah associated himself with bad people; because of that his family tree was lost forever. On the contrary, the dog of the companions of the cave (Ashab -eKahf) Sura 18 of the Holy Quran. by associating himself with the righteous people. acquired human characteristics. (Tr)

36. Words of Inspiration The Father :

My child!I take the Dua (prayer) that our fouth Imam, Imam Sajjad (as), is using as a wish for his children as words of inspiration, and thus, I

O Lord, oblige me by sparing my issue from death, by educating them for me and by blessing me with them. My God, prolong their lives form Increase their terms of existence for me. Bring up those of tender years for me. Strengthen the weak ones for me.

Heal their bodies, faith and morals.

Let them be safe in soul and body and ineverything in I am anxious about concerning them. Let their sustenance flow into my hand.

Let them by virtuous, pious, able to see and hear, obedient unto Thee, and lovers and well-wishers of Thy friends and hostile and implacable to all Thy enemies. Amen.!

O Lord, strenthen my arm with them and straighten with them my crookedness. Enlarge my number because of them. Adorn my society with them. Keep my memory alive by means of the.

Make them take care of my affairs in my absence. Help me with them to satisfy my need. Let the love me, be kind unto me, favourable, faithful, obedient, not disobedient, not wicked, nor adverse nor guilly. Help me in training them, aducating them and in doing good to them.

Grant me from Thee male descendants among them. Let this be a benefit to me. Let them be my helpers in whatever I ask of Thee. Protect me and my offspring from Satan, the stoned one. For verily Thou didst creat us, commands us, put prohibitions upon us and encouraged us with the reward for doing what Thou didst.

threaten us with punishment for disobedience. Thou hast made him our enemy who deceived us. Thour hast given him dominion over some of us while over some of them. Thou hast not given us dominion. Thou hast established him in our breasts and made him run through our blood passages. He is not careless even if we forget. He makes us feel secure from Thy torment and threatens us with (the punishment of some one) other than Thee. If we intend some glaring sin he encourages us in it. If wed intend to do any good thing, he hinders us. He exposes irressistible appetites to us and raises doubts for us.If he mades promises to us, he lies and if he holds out hopes to us, he disappoints us.

If Thou dost not turn his cunning away from us he shall mislead us. If Thou dost not guard us from hiscorruption, he shall cause us to err. Therefore, O lord, overthrow his authority over us with Thy Power till Thou completely retrainth him from us owing to our diligent prayer to Thee so that we may pass out of the power of his cunning into the group of those defended by Thee.

O lord, grant me all my desires. Satisfy my needs.

Do not refuse me Thy answer whilist Thou hast geven surety for it to me. Do not keep off my prayer from Thee while Thou hast required it of me. Favour me with all that will do me good in this world and the next, whatever I remember of if and whatever I have forgotten, expressed, concealed, revealed or withheld.

Let me be (by my imploring Thee Alone) of the righteous, of those who are successful in applying to Thee, of those who are underprived because of their trust in Thee, of those who benefit by their bargains with Thee, of those who take refuge in Thy Majesty, of those who have abindance of lawful sustenance conferred on them by Thy boundless Kindness.

Thy Bounty and Generosity: of those who are exalted to hounour from disgrace by Thee;

Of those who seek shelter from tyranny in Thy Justice;

Of those who are safe from calamity with Thy Grace;

Of those who are raised to prosperity from poverty by Thy endless Wealth.

Of those who are protected from sins, slips and error by fear of Thee;

Of those who have grace for goodness, virtue and righteouness owing to their obedience to Thee;

Of those having a barrier between them and sins because of Thy Power;

Of those who renounce of all sins;

Of those who dwell in Thy neighbourhood.

O lord, grant us all this with Thy Grace and Mercy.

Protect us from the torment of hell.

Favour all the Muslim men and women and true believers, male and female, with the like of what I have gegged of Thee for myself and my offsping in the present world and the future.

Verily, thou art Nigh, Answering, Hearing, Knowing, Overlooking, Forgiving, Compassionate and Merciful.

Confer on us good in this world and the next and guard us from the torment of the fire.

- Al-Sahifa Al-Sajjadiyyah, Prayer, No,25

(For his offsprings)

The Child:

I have heard that parent's prayers for their children will be granted. I pray to almighty All to grant you all you have asked for Him because of good and pure intention. And to realize all your prayers for me.

37. A Word of Thanksgiving The Father:

My beloved child! Now that my hair has turned white and my strength is weaking and daily sunset reminds me of the sunset of my life, I am most proud that I have a child like you! And I am most happy that I have raised a child like you.! Undoubtedly, in the moments of my life, when my breaths are numbered, I wish to open my eyes and my heart of you. Alas! then at that time my tongue will be failing and my strength will disappear, I shall be looking around to find some way out and find someone to interpret my inner thoughts, but I will not be able to do so.1 And hopelessly, I will gaze at you I will give thanks to Allah, who granted such an opportunity, and such a blessed moment, so that I could tell you all there is to say. And to take a load off my mind.

____________ 1. The last moment of life are described by the commender of the faithul Imam Ali (as) in Sermon No.225 Nahjul-Balagha as follows: (Tr) "Thus, a struggle between treatments and diseases started and continued and diseases succeeded in a way as if the treatments were meant to enhance them till the physician found that the art of medicine could no more help. The attendents getting tired started behaving negligently. The nurses and attendants were so tired and disgusted that they would not even describe the condition of patient if anybody enquired to them. They also kept the patient in dark about his condition; they disagreed among themselves, some of them were of opinion that the condition of the patient might be serious but he was passing through a crisis and he would recover; while others held that he was fast sinking and would not recover, that his death was matter of a day or a few hours; and then they tried to console each other.

And all that time the patient was hovering between life and death he felt that he was to part with his friends and relation, he felt that he was suffocating, that he could only breath in short gasps and his mouth was getting dry. he could hear them speaking to him and lamenting over him, some of those lamenters were his dearest relatives and some others were those who he respected. He wanted to reply to them, to say some endearing words or respectful sentences; he wanted to tell them some very important things, but he could not, his tongue and lips refused to form words and his throat refused to pass air or carry the voice. And thus the end arrived; of course, pangs of death are severe and its agonies can neither be described nor imagined."

Similar situation is further described in Sermon No;112 as follows:

"He can now neither hear nor speak, yet his power of sight is still with him, he can see people around him, can see their lips moving but cannot hear any sound. Death comes still nearer and gradually his sight also deserts him; shortly the soul parts with the body, leaving him a corpse amongst his relations, they now feel afraid to come near his dead body and want to keep away from it. He cannot now sympathise with the mouners nor reply to their call. He is then carried to his grave and surrendered there to the consequences of his faith and deeds. They shall not see him again till the day of resurrection, a day when all the human beings will be joined by those who follow them, it is the day when the span alloted to life on the earth will come to an end, and the will of God, to create and resurrect human being, will be carried into effect."

The Child:

I also give thanks to Gracious Allah for the opportunity to be able to hear the heart-to-heart words of kind hearted father, s this is a rare gift that is not granted to everybody and Allah does not bestow it upon each and everyone.

38. The Final Words The Father:

My beloved! Concentrate for a moment and think of the conclusion of your life. If you find my words of advice as I meant them to be, then correct yourself. And respect the rights of your father and mother and do not hesitate in fulfilling your obligations to them. And if you did not find them so, I will leave it then, up to you. And let Allah take care of you. I will beg him to give you a happy and prosperous life. And to protect forever under his auspices.

The Child:

I wish to thank you for your useful words of advice. They are all logical. I hope I will be able to put them into practice and treat you satisfactorily.

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Table of Contents

Title

Chapter 1 - Introduction

Chapter 2 - Preface

Chapter 3 - Biography

Chapter 4 - The Results of Good Behaviour The Father

Chapter 5 - Testimonies of Non-Muslims about Islam

Chapter 6 - The Rights of Fathers and Mothers The Father

Chapter 7 - The Exciting Words The Father

Chapter 8 - A Word of Advise The Father